Should I stay or should I go?

By |2018-05-14T08:51:49+00:00May 14th, 2018|Uncategorized|1 Comment

A good doctor (or midwife!) checking babyIt is a question that might be causing you some concern – when pregnant again, do I go back to the same doctor or midwife I had for my loss? Or do I find someone else?

Maybe the choice is out of your hands. You’ve moved since your last pregnancy. Or your doctor has since retired. Maybe you’re now considered high risk and your previous doctor won’t see you. You have to bite the bullet and find someone new.

In my case, the choice was easy and I didn’t want to leave. I work right across the street from the hospital, and there’s a medical school here, so I had plenty of choice within the hospital. But there are only a handful of high-risk obstetricians and I knew that losing my babies wasn’t the fault of my doctor. My husband wasn’t so happy with the choice, and he didn’t want me to see him again. But I felt comfortable with him and knew he understood what I’d been through. I wasn’t going to have to explain things over and over again.

But not everyone feels that way. Finding a new healthcare provider can be a challenge, and you want to find someone who is the right fit for your medical and emotional needs! The answer to this can depend also on what is available in your area. Midwifery care is more common in Europe and Australia than in the United States and Canada, although in all these countries they are limited to the care of women in normal pregnancies and a previous loss means you might be considered high risk.

Some places have specialized clinics in pregnancy after loss. The originator of this model is the Rainbow Clinic in Manchester UK. Other hospitals that have specialized programs include Sunnybrook Hospital in Toronto and the Mercy Hospital in Melbourne. If you know of others, please let us know so we can add them to our resources page.

You can ask for recommendations in your area from friends. Others who have been through this before are probably your best bet. You can also ask your family doctor for recommendations. They will also likely be familiar with who might be an expert in this area.

Once you have a short list, it is okay to interview some to see if they are a good fit. Whoever you choose, you need to have enough faith in their abilities and confidence that they will deliver the best possible care. You need a strong support team and this starts with your medical professionals!

Image by Jarkko Laine from used under Creative Commons License.

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About the Author:

Amanda Ross-White
Amanda Ross-White’s first pregnancy ended in the stillbirth of her twins, Nathaniel and Samuel, in 2007. Since then, she has had two miscarriages, and two successful pregnancies, her daughter born safe in 2009 and her son in 2012. She is also the author of Joy at the End of the Rainbow: A Guide to Pregnancy After a Loss.

One Comment

  1. Ari May 15, 2018 at 10:32 am - Reply

    Immediately after the birth of our daughter, I felt like we could never use the same midwife again. I’ve thought about it a lot though, and done some troubleshooting, and if we’re blessed enough to try again, we’re pretty sure that we’ll have the same midwife again. 🙂

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