Dear Mama… It Takes a Village

Dear Mama,

Your bravery makes me proud to be in community with you. After losses like ours, your continued hope, love, and endless search for peace inspires me. The way you reach out for connection, for advice, for reassurance in the times when darkness takes hold of you, brings me hope. The way you embrace fear, uncertainty, and sadness is admirable.

I was so heartbroken and lost when my beautiful son Leo died of sudden infant death syndrome in 2013. It was then that I realized that it takes a village to survive grief. I couldn’t have come this far without the safe space that is our PALS friendship. Your willingness to listen gave a voice to my grief journey and I want you to know that I too am here to listen to you. You are a part of my village and I yours.

As you journey down whatever path it is that life has you on, know that you have a village of loss mothers, fathers, siblings, grandparents, family, and friends, cheering you on, reassuring you when you’re in doubt, strengthening you when you feel weak, crying with you when you’re overwhelmed, speaking your child’s name when you feel like they might be forgotten, and supporting you no matter what you’re going through.

We are in this together. We are a part of the same tribe…the same heart-broken, hopeful, devastated tribe.

I hope you know that your presence has changed my world for the better.

Angela Riggs

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About the Author:

Angela Riggs
Angela Riggs is a bereaved mother who has three children on Earth and one in Heaven. She and her family live in San Diego, CA where she works as a Human Resources professional in higher education. She is a dedicated wife, loving mother, daughter, sister, and friend. Angela contributes as a PALS First Year Blogger who shares her thoughts and feelings as she continues down her parenting journey, focusing on parenting after a SIDS loss. In 2013, the Riggs family suffered the loss of their third child and only son, Leo to Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). Angela began writing letters to Leo the day after he passed away as a way to stay connected to him. Through these letters Angela has been able to freely express her grief, fear, hope, faith, and connect with others who have been through or have loved ones who have experienced loss. She invites you to read her letters on her blog SurvivingSIDS.

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