Heather’s Bump Day Vlog, Weeks 11-13: Big Milestones

Join me as I share the ups and downs of my pregnancy after loss through PALS' new Bump Day Vlog. In this video, I share some of our big milestones of this pregnancy, including passing the gestation of our first loss and the reason I long to know the baby's gender. https://youtu.be/zOlt3xtkYAA

The Invisible Mental Workload of a Mother Pregnant After Loss

Recently articles about “the invisible workload of motherhood” have been circulating around social media. Sure enough, if you ask any mother about this mental load, they know exactly what you’re talking about. The mental lists they keep to manage their kids’ lives and their households. The tasks they juggle and complete without much recognition. This [...]

Tracy’s Bump Day Blog, Week 33: She’ll Never Know

Tracy's first rainbow, Ainsley Hope My toddler rainbow daughter was napping, and the way her top lip overlapped her bottom one, an effect created as she shifted slowly into sleep from sitting up watching her beloved Paw Patrol to partially sitting up to leaning over peacefully onto some pillows, gave me an overwhelming [...]

The Guilt in Parenting After Pregnancy Loss

Before pregnancy loss, I had experienced mom guilt numerous times as I parented my sunshine baby. Maybe the guilt had risen to the surface after letting her cry a little longer than usual, or after losing my temper, or after denying a request to sit down and play. But, after pregnancy loss, the feelings of [...]

By | 2018-03-05T16:51:42+00:00 March 5th, 2018|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

Communication & Empathy

As a mother who has experienced miscarriage, my empathy towards new mothers is different than that of someone without children of their own, or who has never had a loss. My nursing practice isn't necessarily better, but I tend to notice different elements of my postpartum patient than other nurses. I sometimes understand why the [...]

By | 2018-03-05T08:57:02+00:00 March 5th, 2018|Birth, For Professionals, From Professionals|0 Comments

Tracy’s Bump Day Blog, Week 32: Movement

This pregnancy has been going relatively smoothly so far. I have excellent care, more trust in this process and myself, and am seen often by my high-risk doctor. The likelihood of missing something seems pretty low. Our plan was to add non-stress tests to my weekly appointments starting at 32 weeks. I am 32 weeks [...]

By | 2018-02-26T21:51:52+00:00 February 26th, 2018|3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog, Pregnancy|0 Comments

The Body in Pregnancy After Loss: The Additional Weight of Grief

When my clients become pregnant again after a pregnancy loss, they often express some degree of dissatisfaction with their weight. They tell me that they never got back to their “starting weight,” the number on the scale at the beginning of the first pregnancy. They express disappointment about this and fear about the weight they [...]

5 Ways to Connect with your Partner during Pregnancy After Loss

After our son Patrick died, I learned very quickly that my husband and I processed grief differently. I didn’t understand how he could go back to work just a few days after our son died. He needed the structure. That structure was part of the way he coped. But, I feared that we would quickly [...]

By | 2018-02-26T09:08:30+00:00 February 26th, 2018|For Dads, Pregnancy|1 Comment

Everything’s Okay Until It Isn’t

The appointment is over and your doctor or midwife has just told you that everything looks great.  Your baby is doing well and everything is okay.  One hand on your bump, you schedule your next appointment with a sense of relief that feels dangerously close to bliss.  You turn to leave and you are barely [...]

By | 2018-02-22T15:08:23+00:00 February 22nd, 2018|Pregnancy|0 Comments

Heather’s Bump Day Vlog, Weeks 8-11: Early Anxiety

Join me as I share the ups and downs of my pregnancy after loss through PALS new Bump Day Vlog. In this first video, I chronicle my appointments and early anxiety during weeks 8-11 of my pregnancy. https://youtu.be/0Jgezxj643s

By | 2018-02-22T13:49:41+00:00 February 22nd, 2018|10weeks, 11weeks, 1st Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments