To My Husband on Father’s Day

To My Husband on Father's Day, Hey you. Remember me? Remember us? Over the years, we've experienced pretty much everything together, from the trying and losses, through grief and sadness, to joy and relief, and back again. There were days we didn't think we'd make it. Days we thought we'd never have living children. And [...]

By | 2018-06-12T07:35:13+00:00 June 12th, 2018|Adoption, For Dads|1 Comment

The Unspoken Grief from a Loss Father

Guest post by Sergio Pierluissi Our family of five, including the bear we received from the hospital after losing Lucy. My wife, Meagan -- a volunteer with Pregnancy After Loss Support (PALS), asked if I’d like to write some thoughts about our experience for PALS; from a father's perspective. I’d love to, I thought. [...]

By | 2018-06-11T21:29:27+00:00 June 11th, 2018|For Dads, From Dads Who Know|0 Comments

My Dear Babies Who Never Made it to Earth My Dear Babies Who Never Made it to Earth, You were very tiny when you left my body. I barely knew I was pregnant, but you were there. You were there, but not long enough. I tried everything I could think of to keep you safe but it didn't make any difference. [...]

By | 2018-06-06T21:29:20+00:00 June 6th, 2018|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

Pregnant and Pessimistic

During my pregnancy after loss, I seemed to be surrounded by people who had the “glass-half-full” mentality. They still believed that pregnancy guaranteed a living baby and they felt optimistic that nothing would go wrong. These people didn't waste any time congratulating me on what they were certain would be a problem-free pregnancy. They were [...]

Dear Healthcare Professionals: Lessons from a Loss Mama

My friend, a fellow loss mama, whose daughter had a fatal diagnosis in the womb was told by the doctor that she wouldn’t want to see her daughter and certainly shouldn’t let her other children meet their sister because “she will look like a monster.” Today, I had a doctors appointment for a sleep study. [...]

The story behind the numbers

There is a piece of paper held on my refrigerator with a magnet. It has been there for nearly 7 years, and every time I go through the jungle of children's artwork, prayer reminders, and Christmas photos that have found their way there, it survives. It tells a story, and it reminds me of three [...]

By | 2018-05-31T20:40:35+00:00 May 31st, 2018|1st Trimester, Emotional Health, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Put Your Mask on First: Self-care while Parenting after Loss

If you’ve ever flown, you’ve heard the pre-flight safety message and instructions. “In the event of a loss in cabin pressure, an oxygen mask will automatically appear in front of you…If you are traveling with a child or someone who requires assistance, secure your mask first, then assist the other person.” In fact, since flying [...]

By | 2018-05-28T21:33:09+00:00 May 28th, 2018|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments