Marry the man who buys you tampons while dating because he will be the one who buys the pregnancy tests once married.

Nick and Lindsey holding Nora - marry the man who will hold your dead baby

Marry the man who gets teary eyed when he sees you all dressed up for a date because he’ll be the one who gets a tear in his eye when you tell him he’s going to be a dad.

Marry the man who asks how your annual OBGYN appointment went because he will be the one who accompanies you to your first prenatal appointment.

Marry the man who buys his niece birthday cards because he will be the one who buys your unborn baby their first gift.

Marry the man who puts together your IKEA furniture for your apartment because he will be the one who puts together your baby’s crib in your new home.

Marry the man who holds your hand during the sad and scary parts of the movie because he will be the one who holds your hand when you hear the sad and scary words at an ultrasound, “I’m sorry. There’s no heartbeat.”

Marry the man who says, “I’m here,” when you go to the vet to witness your beloved pet’s last breath because he will be the one who says, “I’m here,” when you arrive at the hospital to deliver you baby that died before they were born.

Marry the man who tenderly touches your face and whispers, “I love,” in stolen moments because he will be the one who gently caresses your stillborn baby’s cheeks and softly murmurs , “I love you,” to them in the only moment he ever has with your baby.

Marry the man who holds you when you cry after a bad day at work because he will be the one who holds you when you weep for days, weeks, months and years after your baby’s death.

Marry the man who gives you the space you need when you have a fight because he will be the one who gives you the space you need to navigate your “new normal” in life after your baby died.

Marry the man who laughs at your dry sarcastic or silly humor because he will be the one who will give you permission to laugh again in the dark days of your shared grief.

Marry the man who is willing to wait to have sex for more than just a few weeks after the first date because he will be the one who is willing to wait weeks and maybe months before trying again for another baby.

Marry the man who asks about when your menstrual cycle will begin that month because he is the one who won’t shy away from timing intercourse.

Marry the man who hugs you when you don’t get that promotion after months and months of hard work because he will be the one who’s arms are held wide open for you to fall into when the pregnancy tests only show one line and not two, month after painful month.

Marry the man who validated your decision to ditch out on dumb dinners while dating because he will be the one who gives you permission to blow off baby showers after months, maybe years, of trying for a baby.

Marry the man who you can make pros and cons lists with about buying that new car because he will be the one you can weigh the benefits and risks with when considering how soon to tell the world you’re pregnant again.

Marry the man who isn’t grossed out by your period because he will be the one you can call at work when you fear spotting may have started again in your subsequent pregnancy.

Marry the man who brings you chicken noddle soup and rubs your feet when you have a cold because he will be the one who brings you saltines and rubs your back when you’re belly begins to bulge again.

Marry the man who listens to all your secret and scary insecurities because he will be the one who listens to your many worries and fears about how this baby could die too.

Marry the man who won’t stand by and let you call yourself crazy when you jump out of the car before leaving for a date to double check to see if you left the curling iron on because he is the one that won’t let you call yourself crazy when you can’t go to sleep until you feel your baby move ten times in your belly before you go to bed.

Marry the man who remembers his mother’s birthday because he will be the one who remembers the anniversary of the loss of your baby.

Marry the man who cheers you on from the sidelines saying, “You can do this,” when you’re running the last tenth of a mile of that marathon because he will be the one who says, “You can do this,” when birthing your rainbow baby.

Nick holding baby Zoe - marry the man who will hold your dead baby

Marry the man who shares with you he wants to someday be a dad because he is the one who will someday hold your baby born after all your struggles of grief and softly share with your newborn, “I’m so glad you’re here.”

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