“In This Moment, Everything is Okay” and other Helpful Pregnancy After Loss Affirmations

By |2018-06-13T17:39:48+00:00June 13th, 2018|1st Trimester, 2nd Trimester, 3rd Trimester, Birth, Pregnancy|1 Comment

When you’re pregnant again after loss (PAL), it’s so easy to get inside your head. You’ve been introduced to the “baby loss world” and you have suddenly become aware of the many ways a baby can die during pregnancy. It’s so easy to go to a bad place very quickly. For me, affirmations were so important during my pregnancies after loss. They helped me stop. Breathe. And relax. All while quietly reminding myself that “in this moment, everything is okay.”

I also reminded myself that if I was able to give birth to a baby knowing she would die either during labor or shortly thereafter, I could do anything. That was my “I can do hard things, I’ve done the impossible” type mantra that got me through my first pregnancy after losing my first child.

I recently coordinated a PAL yoga retreat for my local pregnancy after loss support group. Picking and reading affirmations was part of the afternoon program, and I thought this month I would share all the affirmations I’ve found. Many are from our PALS founder, Lindsey Henke, and others are from other PAL moms, or pregnancy affirmation webpages I’ve frequented, and even a church marquee I pass by on my way to work! Feel free to add your own or tell us your favorite in the comments below.

PAL Affirmations

I trust in the wisdom of my body to protect this baby and produce life. – Lindsey Henke

I am worthy of this pregnancy, this baby and a beautiful birth! – Lindsey Henke

I can visualize a beautiful birth and coming home with a healthy baby in my arms. – Lindsey Henke

Even though it’s hard as hell to do, I yell back in fear’s face and say today I choose joy! -Lindsey Henke

I possess the strength and courage it take to bring this baby into this world healthy and alive. -Author Unknown

I have to believe that my baby will be born alive and healthy. – Lindsey Henke

This baby growing inside of me is full of life and will live a beautiful one. -Lindsey Henke

My pregnant body is a beautiful vessel that is blooming and creating life.  – Lindsey Henke

It is safe for me to be happy during this pregnancy. I deserve this blessing. – Affirmations for Pregnancy Website

I am strong and healthy, and so is the baby I’m creating. – Lindsey Henke

I breathe in strength, and breathe out calm and confidence in my body and my baby. – Lindsey Henke

Replace our worries with peace, our fear with courage. – Church Marquee in Fitchburg, Wisconsin

Let your hope and faith that you will bring your baby home be bigger than your fear that you will not – Adapted from that same church marquee

I can do hard things. I’ve done the impossible. – Franchesca Cox

Just breathe. Everything is going to be okay. – CarlyMarie

Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. – Sonia Ricotte

This is a different pregnancy, a different baby, a different story, with a different ending. – Lindsey Henke

 Here are some prayers or longer pieces that may also serve as helpful reminders to you during PAL.

“Nature, be good to me. 
God – or whatever your name may be – please help me get through this pregnancy.
Give me strength.
Calm my heart.
Protect my child.
Please, be with my baby. Please.”
– Alexis Marie Chute, Expecting Sunshine 

I deserve this.
It is OK to dream.
It is OK to hope.
Pregnancy can and will be BEAUTIFUL –
for as many days as that may be.

– Franchesca Cox

I have been blessed with the gift of a precious baby.
Each day that passes my love for my child grows deeper.
My baby feels safe and peaceful in my womb.

My body is amazing and wise. It knows exactly what
to do. I invoke all of the love and support from the millions of
woman who have walked this road before me. As I carry and
nurture this new life, I too am held and supported.

I release all fears and any guilt surrounding pregnancy that I
may have felt in the past. I now trust, love and thank my body.

Whenever I feel anxious, I stop and take deep breaths. I
send lovingly, calm thoughts to each cell in my body.
I am calm. I am peaceful. I am strong. I am perfect health.
All is well and safe with my baby and I.

I AM A BEAUTIFUL MOTHER.

– Carly Marie

 

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About the Author:

Rebecca Markert
Rebecca Markert lives in Verona, Wisconsin, with her husband, Mike, and their three living children, Dexter, Audrey, and Owen. She gave birth to her first child, Lily, on Mother's Day 2010 after she went into preterm labor at 20 weeks. Rebecca had a septate uterus, which put her at risk for preterm labor and an incompetent cervix, among other things. Lily was a beautiful baby girl with her daddy's nose and her mommy's feet. She was stillborn. She was proof that love at first sight does exist. After another high risk pregnancy, Rebecca welcomed her rainbow, Dexter, in 2011. During her second pregnancy after loss, Rebecca realized how anxious and fearful she still was and sought out other women expecting again after loss. She, along with four other courageous mamas, formed the Rainbow Pregnancies of Madison group, which supports women pregnant after loss. Rebecca is still the facilitator of that group, which meets monthly and has an active, private Facebook page.

One Comment

  1. Stephanie June 14, 2018 at 3:46 pm - Reply

    These are so great. Thanks for sharing here- I’ve been trying to figure out some mantras beyond my current “one hour at a time” and there are so many good suggestions here. Thank you!

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