The Body in Pregnancy After Loss: The Additional Weight of Grief

When my clients become pregnant again after a pregnancy loss, they often express some degree of dissatisfaction with their weight. They tell me that they never got back to their “starting weight,” the number on the scale at the beginning of the first pregnancy. They express disappointment about this and fear about the weight they [...]

The Secret Truth About Gender Disappointment

Gender disappointment. It happens, but few of us want to talk about it. Especially those of us in the loss community. "I'll just be happy if your baby is healthy and alive," we say about pregnancy after loss, because we all know the alternative. We may even demand the same from our friends and acquaintances [...]

By | 2018-01-14T20:40:04+00:00 January 14th, 2018|2nd Trimester, Emotional Health, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Laura’s Bump Day Blog, Week 26 – Slowing Down

My midwife said this would happen. At my last visit a few weeks ago, I told her I was in the glory days of pregnancy. My energy was peak, I was exercising again, I felt awesome. I registered for a triathlon next month. My family was eating delicious, home-cooked meals every night. She just smiled [...]

By | 2017-07-31T12:20:29+00:00 July 31st, 2017|26weeks, 2nd Trimester, Bump Day Blog, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Storytellers

  The first time I walked through those hospital doors…it didn't feel real. But the extreme pain my body was experiencing kept my mind tied to reality. This was happening. My late-night ER visit was for reasons that every pregnant woman dreads—blood and pain. So much pain. The first time I walked through those hospital [...]

By | 2017-05-18T12:15:46+00:00 May 18th, 2017|1st Trimester, Pregnancy, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Mikey’s Bump Day Blog, Week 20: Halfway There!

On Sunday, we officially hit the halfway point of this pregnancy! Our little rainbow, Colbie, is now as big as a banana, and I can feel more consistent movements. Despite all the worrying, fears, aches, and pains along the way, I am finally letting go a lot of negative feelings, and starting to love every [...]

Mikey’s Bump Day Blog, Week 19: Ambivalence and Hope

Wow, nineteen weeks already. Where does the time go? It just seems like yesterday I was starting another cycle of clomid, praying that it would finally be the month we would conceive our rainbow.  Despite feeling baby kicks more regularly now, it still doesn’t feel real at times. With my pregnancy with our angel, Amelia, [...]

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 28 – Slowly Reaching the Summit

Lately, we've felt as if there has been a shift. From day one, it hasn't felt as though we've been walking a steady slope to the end point of this pregnancy. From day one, it has felt like we've been walking up a sheer cliff face. With less walking, but more scrambling, clutching on, climbing. [...]

Mikey’s Bump Day Blog, Week 17: Four Months Down, Five More to Go!

At my OB appointment two weeks ago, my doctor provided me with some options to help with my anxiety and depression that’s been getting worse since the beginning of my pregnancy. Since then, I made the decision to start Zoloft. Normally I am against antidepressants, but it's not good for our rainbow baby with how [...]

The Grief Gap

Five years on, here is something new in the grief: I need to go back to work. I have freelanced consistently over these years of losing and being pregnant again and, now, raising two young daughters. However, the last time I properly interviewed for a job, I was 30, a newlywed, an Innocent. Two years [...]