Kasey’s Bump Day Blog, Week 17: Waiting

Pregnancy after loss is all about waiting. Pregnancy in general is a time of preparing and waiting for a baby to arrive. In pregnancy after loss, though, this waiting is not about waiting until the time that your baby is finally ready to join you, it is waiting to find out whether this baby will [...]

You Can Be Grateful And Still Complain When Parenting After Loss

I distinctly remember those sleepless nights. I’m referring to the ones that came after my daughter, Dorothy, was stillborn. I would toss and turn for hours, my eyes burning from the steady stream of tears that fell. It was agony. As I lay there I would torment myself by imagining what it would be like [...]

By |2018-06-21T21:18:08+00:00June 21st, 2018|Parenting After Loss, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Rebecca’s Bump Day Blog, Week 36: Exhaustion

I’ve spent the entirety of the last two and a half years trying to conceive, pregnant, or immediately post-partum. During that time, I’ve been pregnant three times for nearly 20 months in total. 20 months pregnant – that’s about equal to the gestation period of an elephant. I recognize that I’m lucky in a number [...]

The Body in Pregnancy After Loss: The Additional Weight of Grief

When my clients become pregnant again after a pregnancy loss, they often express some degree of dissatisfaction with their weight. They tell me that they never got back to their “starting weight,” the number on the scale at the beginning of the first pregnancy. They express disappointment about this and fear about the weight they [...]

The Secret Truth About Gender Disappointment

Gender disappointment. It happens, but few of us want to talk about it. Especially those of us in the loss community. "I'll just be happy if your baby is healthy and alive," we say about pregnancy after loss, because we all know the alternative. We may even demand the same from our friends and acquaintances [...]

By |2018-01-14T20:40:04+00:00January 14th, 2018|2nd Trimester, Emotional Health, Uncategorized|0 Comments

Laura’s Bump Day Blog, Week 26 – Slowing Down

My midwife said this would happen. At my last visit a few weeks ago, I told her I was in the glory days of pregnancy. My energy was peak, I was exercising again, I felt awesome. I registered for a triathlon next month. My family was eating delicious, home-cooked meals every night. She just smiled [...]