How To Win The Grief Olympics: Dos and Don’ts of Comparing Grief

Photo by Zach Lucero on Unsplash You may have heard of it: The Grief Olympics. The term comes up when people try to "one-up" each other's grief by explaining why their own personal loss is far worse. Many of us have engaged in The Grief Olympics in one way or another. It's human nature to compare [...]

By |2018-09-20T17:07:34+00:00September 20th, 2018|Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy, TTC|0 Comments

We’re Done Having Children and My Family Is Incomplete

As a mom who has experienced loss, I have always dreaded the question, “How many children do you have?” For so long, I struggled with finding an answer that was simple and truthful. Now, after over two years of fumbling my words, I feel somewhat okay with sharing that I have two daughters knowing that [...]

By |2018-08-30T21:38:51+00:00August 30th, 2018|Parenting After Loss, TTC|0 Comments

Trying to Get Pregnant Again after Loss

The thought of adding another child to your family starts out as such an exciting time. You dream of whether you will have a boy or a girl, what they will look like, and what kind of personality they will have. After you get pregnant, you anxiously await that first ultrasound and hearing the heartbeat [...]

By |2018-08-21T15:42:57+00:00August 21st, 2018|TTC|0 Comments

Finding an OB After Pregnancy Loss: 8 Ways You Need Their Support

Dear OB after pregnancy loss, Before we make this “relationship” official, I have a confession. I know my paperwork has already informed you that my number of pregnancies does not equal the number of babies who made it to viability. This gravida/parity equation is simple to read, but carries nuances that can be hard to [...]

By |2018-08-19T19:14:02+00:00August 19th, 2018|1st Trimester, For Professionals, Pregnancy, TTC|0 Comments

I’m Cringing At Your Pregnancy Announcement, Here Is Why

It never happens, until it does. It happened to me, it can happen to you. It happened to three of my cousins, two of my friends, and so many more that I meet as time goes on. It happens to 1 in 4. Pregnancy loss is more prevalent than you think, and I feel like [...]

Thank You for Sharing your Stories through #IAmPALS

Photo of "Stitch" taken by Margaret Belanger I have the incredible honor of working with loss mamas from all over the world. They entrust me with their stories, and I consider it one of the greatest privileges of my life to hold those stories and their babies (living and not) with them. Last [...]

Your High-Risk Pregnancy After Loss: 10 Tips to Help

If pregnancy after loss is a mind game, a high-risk pregnancy after loss is a mind game on crack. When your pregnancy after loss becomes high-risk, you face a double-whammy of a loss of innocence and heightened anxiety and fear. To put it simply, a high-risk pregnancy is one which requires extra measures to increase [...]

By |2018-05-20T20:41:58+00:00May 20th, 2018|Physical Health, Pregnancy, Tips from PAL Moms, TTC|0 Comments

Already a mom

Photo by Ian Schneider on Unsplash I have two living children. My daughter was born after several years of "unexplained infertility". My son was born four years later, after several years of heartbreaking losses in my first and second trimesters. I remember how confusing that Mother's Day was after he was born. My son was a [...]

Trying to conceive after loss: Your top 10 list of what you must know

After my first loss, my thoughts constantly fell on one of two things: mourning the baby we just lost and dreaming of trying again. As much as I deeply ached to still be pregnant with the child we already conceived, the emptiness in my womb now felt unbearable. I was ready to start trying to [...]

By |2018-03-18T20:17:25+00:00March 18th, 2018|1st Trimester, Adoption, Emotional Health, Pregnancy, TTC|1 Comment

Pregnancy After Loss (PAL) Awareness Photo Challenge 2018

Welcome to Pregnancy After Loss (PAL) Awareness Month Photo Challenge, March 2018. What is Pregnancy After Loss Awareness Month? In the world of pregnancy after loss there is a story of hope about a precious new life, and it’s the story of the rainbow baby. It is based on the understanding that the beauty of the [...]