Forgetting Details about the Baby I Lost

Sometimes the death that took them, since it's often the final tangible moment on earth we have of them, shadows the memories of the babies we hoped for and dreamed of. Sadly, sometimes in our minds that individual becomes what happened to them, and memories of the unique baby we were growing begin to slip [...]

The Healthy Grief Movement

I didn’t give much thought to grief before losing my son, Zachary, to a heart tumor in 2010. My few experiences with funerals were few and far between. There I observed the bereaved as sullen but composed. They were not weeping, though did shed a few tears. They were not outwardly angry and thanked people [...]

She Said Their Names

  “Lavender and Pine,” I said in a sort of disbelief that the moment was happening. For so long I had anticipated the moment I would tell our oldest daughter about her heaven-siblings. I looked forward to the day I would share their names with her and talk about their lives. It was impossible to [...]

Rainbow Babies aren’t Replacements

Rainbow babies aren't replacements, and the first person we have to convince this of is ourself. Many of us wanted to be pregnant immediately after we found out our baby wasn't for earth. Many of us wanted to be pregnant again with the same gender we got attached to but never got to experience in [...]

Book Review: Expecting Sunshine by Alexis Marie Chute

When Lindsey Henke founded Pregnancy After Loss Support (PALS) almost three years ago, there were few resources for women who were pregnant after a pregnancy, infant, or child loss (PAL). In those three years, PALS has contributed to newfound awareness of the unique nature of the PAL experience and more resources are available. Just last [...]

Car Seat Safety

Car seat safety is critical to your child's health and well being. However making sense of all of the options and necessities can be very infusing. Here is Birth You Desire's quick guide for you. The safest car set for you child is one that fits your child, fits your car, and is easy for [...]

Returning to Work Post Rainbow Baby

I work as a registered nurse on the postpartum unit at a hospital in Columbus, Ohio. I am lucky enough that I was able to take 12 weeks off work after I had our Rainbow in January. Although I love my job, I could not wait to have three whole months off! I was due [...]

By | 2017-05-04T08:12:00+00:00 May 4th, 2017|Parenting After Loss, The First Year|0 Comments

PAL Awareness Photo Challenge 2017

Welcome to Pregnancy After Loss (PAL) Awareness Month Photo Challenge, March 2016. What is Pregnancy After Loss Awareness Month? In the world of pregnancy after loss there is a story of hope about a precious new life, and it’s the story of the rainbow baby. It is based on the understanding that the beauty of the [...]

By | 2017-03-10T10:34:56+00:00 March 10th, 2017|Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy, The First Year, TTC|0 Comments

The Dreaded Invitation

How can you survive a holiday or special event without your angel(s) physically present? My first piece of advice is, don't go if you can't. If you have done a lot of emotional work and are actually getting out of bed these days, can I just say congratulations? Whether your loss is recent, it's been [...]

By | 2017-03-01T16:35:01+00:00 March 1st, 2017|Parenting After Loss, The First Year|0 Comments