Our rainbow baby is our last, and it’s giving me all the feels.

“I’m done,” I repeated to my husband for the millionth time that week. Just months earlier, we saw our reproductive endocrinologist. We miscarried for the fourth time and wanted to follow up to see if there’s anything more they could do. They told me our next steps were trying IVF, or we could do an [...]

By | 2017-11-19T21:12:12+00:00 November 19th, 2017|Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy|2 Comments

What if it works?

So much of a pregnancy after loss is spent with the all consuming thought: what if it doesn’t work this time too? That thought can linger in the recesses of a person’s mind and grow louder. It tends to crescendo right before a sonogram or a doctor’s appointment, and then fades dramatically once there is [...]

By | 2017-11-16T17:27:46+00:00 November 16th, 2017|Emotional Health, From Professionals, Pregnancy|0 Comments

5 Ways To Share Loss Babies With Their Siblings

As time goes on and as my family gets older, I'm thinking a lot about keeping Oberon present in our lives. It was so easy in the beginning because he was my whole world. Every moment that I had any energy was focused on him. My pregnancy after loss was entirely wrapped up in my [...]

By | 2017-11-09T20:23:31+00:00 November 9th, 2017|Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy|0 Comments

The Emotional Weather of a Pregnancy After Loss

Pregnancy after loss can seem like a long period of unpredictable weather, unpredictable emotional weather that is. With loss comes a long season of grief, a season where the fog doesn’t lift, the sun doesn’t shine and life seems to be raining down on us. My emotional weather remained consistent as I navigated life after [...]

By | 2017-11-07T07:33:24+00:00 November 7th, 2017|Emotional Health, Pregnancy|2 Comments

The Power of Sharing our Stories

I want to be heard. Not just listened to, but really heard and understood. I know I am not alone in this. Every single one of us who has experienced the loss of our babies just wants another mama to look her in the eyes and say, “Yes.  I know exactly how you feel.” I [...]

By | 2017-10-27T07:53:08+00:00 October 27th, 2017|Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Laura’s Bump Day Blog, Week 38 – When I Can’t Sleep, It’s Time.

It’s 3:30am. My eyes flicker open, for the 3rd time this week. I sneak a peek at the clock. Dammit, 3:30 again. What is it with this time? I lay quietly, hands on my belly, immediately waiting for the gentle nudges of a sleeping baby also turning inside me. The bit of reassurance I’ll need [...]

By | 2017-10-23T12:33:40+00:00 October 23rd, 2017|3rd Trimester, Birth, Bump Day Blog, Pregnancy|1 Comment

5 Important Things to Know About Recurrent Miscarriage

1. First and most important, miscarriage is never your fault. Never ever. There is a reason. We just may not ever figure out what it is. One miscarriage is difficult and heartbreaking. Recurrent miscarriages are confusing and devastating. The timing of a miscarriage may suggest different causes. Kristi Bothur at the blog This Side of Heaven, [...]

Permission to Have a Good Day

In the world of loss and subsequent pregnancies, we moms often deal with guilt. There's consuming sadness that our family at face-value doesn't match what it is at heart-value. There's sometimes a nagging heaviness that we could've done something differently or should've known sooner. There's a new element of motherhood that a majority of the [...]

By | 2017-10-19T08:12:25+00:00 October 19th, 2017|Emotional Health, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Rainbow Clinics are a Thing and They’re Going to Change your Pregnancy After Loss Care

When I was pregnant again after loss, I wanted everyone at my OB’s office to know that I had lost a baby.  I wanted the receptionist to know, the lab technician, the sonographer, the nurses, doctors – anyone with whom I would interact needed to know that I was anxious and scared because of my [...]

By | 2017-10-12T14:01:41+00:00 October 11th, 2017|For Professionals, From Professionals, Pregnancy, TFMR|1 Comment