I’m Cringing At Your Pregnancy Announcement, Here Is Why

It never happens, until it does. It happened to me, it can happen to you. It happened to three of my cousins, two of my friends, and so many more that I meet as time goes on. It happens to 1 in 4. Pregnancy loss is more prevalent than you think, and I feel like [...]

Five Questions about Pregnancy after Loss in the Workplace

Women who are pregnant with or without a history of loss face many challenges at work. They wonder who to tell, when to tell, and worry about issues like maternity leave, health benefits, job security and of course, what to do if their water breaks at the office. Women who are pregnant again after a [...]

Announcing your Pregnancy after Loss

I have always been one to announce my pregnancies early. The excitement was too high to keep it a secret; I felt like my ginormous smile would give it away. However, when I got pregnant with Eden after Zachary died, I debated when to tell my family and friends that I was expecting again. It [...]

Announcing My Pregnancy After Loss

Moments after I lost my first baby at 13 weeks, a chaplain walked into my room, carrying a mint green shawl. As he laid it down the length of my body, he explained that volunteers crochet them to comfort grieving mothers—mothers who lose babies and leave the hospital with empty wombs and hearts. I slept [...]

By |2016-10-13T17:07:35+00:00September 15th, 2016|Pregnancy, Pregnancy Announcement|0 Comments

Surviving Painful Triggers in Pregnancy after Loss

Facebook memories can be fun, those little reminders of what you posted a year or two years ago, or more. It can be entertaining to see what photos you shared or what you complained about back then. Or the big news you announced to all your friends. When I opened Facebook this morning, the memory [...]

The Struggle of My Best Friend Being Pregnant After My Loss

The Struggle of My Best Friend Being Pregnant After My Loss A few weeks after I lost my first son at 4.5 months’ pregnant, I found out that one of my best friends was pregnant. I wish I could say that I was happy for her and my heart didn’t break into a million pieces but that [...]

A Double Blessing

Our first pregnancy after the loss of our son Malachi ended in a blighted ovum, devastation, heartbreak, depression, isolation…you name it. The month following that diagnosis, we dealt with all of these emotions, as well as the one year angelversary of Malachi’s passing. It was hard. So hard. I didn’t know where I stood on [...]

By |2016-10-13T17:10:15+00:00February 17th, 2016|15weeks, 2nd Trimester, Pregnancy, Pregnancy Announcement|2 Comments

A Letter to My Friend, a Fellow Loss and Infertility Mom

My Dear Friend, I’m sure that by now you’ve seen my pregnancy announcement online. I wanted to call you personally to tell you, but I also didn’t want to put you on the spot. I’m sorry if my silence felt uncaring, because it was quite the opposite. I didn’t mean to catch you off-guard. We [...]

By |2018-02-12T15:39:37+00:00November 12th, 2015|Pregnancy, Pregnancy Announcement, TTC|3 Comments

Heather’s Bump Day Blog, Week 12: When We Tell the World

I always treasure the early weeks when only immediate family and best friends know about the little life growing inside of me. It’s this sacred secret that only our small circle shares—a special club. Our heartstrings all become beautifully entangled as we cover baby in prayer together. This pregnancy I have felt the same way—I’ve [...]

Where Courage Comes From

I didn’t write publicly about my first two pregnancies until they were gone. I didn’t announce my third pregnancy until we had seen H.’s whole heart. Fear motivated my desire to wait until we had at least passed the point of our greatest loss—24 weeks, 1 day, 9 hours—the moment I met and held my [...]