Postpartum Nesting

Photo by Echo Grid on Unsplash When people hear that newborns sleep between 16-18 hours a day, there is a common misconception that this occurs all at once, or in longer chunks than the realistic 2-3 hours (maybe once a day a stretch of 4 hours, if you’re lucky!). There is the idea that postpartum is [...]

Life With Noah: Similar, But Not The Same

As a loss mother, one of the things I struggle with is how much my two sons – the one I lost moments after birth and the one who walks beside me – look alike. One of the first thoughts that popped into my mind as I gazed upon my newborn rainbow Noah was, “He [...]

By |2018-07-19T20:50:37+00:00July 19th, 2018|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

6 absolute needs loss moms face when their rainbow baby is sick

Whether it's a high fever, unusual behavior, a bump or fall, or a more serious prognosis -- loss moms often struggle with anxiety when their rainbow baby is sick. I certainly was no exception... When my phone rang as I headed down to our car from the pediatrician's office, my heart sunk. It was the [...]

By |2018-07-15T21:19:14+00:00July 15th, 2018|Parenting After Loss|1 Comment

Parenting After Loss: The Asterisk

Parenting after loss lends itself to many analogies - a roller coaster, a seesaw, waves. I've made these analogies countless times myself. The days, weeks, months, and years of parenting after loss are piling up. Also the days, weeks, and months since my first child, Oberon, was alive keep increasing. My life (and demeanor) seem [...]

By |2018-07-12T19:04:19+00:00July 12th, 2018|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

Picking a Pediatrician for Your Baby Born After Loss

Photo by Hush Naidoo on Unsplash Almost two weeks ago, after my 2 ½ year old son completed his well-child check-up, his pediatrician sat me down to tell me that she was retiring in September. With that, we’d have to pick a new doctor for my three kids born after loss. My heart sank. It felt [...]

By |2018-07-11T21:39:11+00:00July 11th, 2018|Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy|0 Comments

My Rainbow Baby Wasn’t Supposed to Be My Last, But I am Content

My rainbow baby is almost two years old and sometimes I am still surprised that we both survived pregnancy together. I just wasn't sure it was possible. That my pregnancy with my son would result in him coming home with us. Yet, even during the excruciatingly long and fear-filled days of my rainbow pregnancy, hope [...]

By |2018-07-02T19:39:30+00:00July 2nd, 2018|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

Thank You for Sharing your Stories through #IAmPALS

Photo of "Stitch" taken by Margaret Belanger I have the incredible honor of working with loss mamas from all over the world. They entrust me with their stories, and I consider it one of the greatest privileges of my life to hold those stories and their babies (living and not) with them. Last [...]

You Can Be Grateful And Still Complain When Parenting After Loss

I distinctly remember those sleepless nights. I’m referring to the ones that came after my daughter, Dorothy, was stillborn. I would toss and turn for hours, my eyes burning from the steady stream of tears that fell. It was agony. As I lay there I would torment myself by imagining what it would be like [...]

By |2018-06-21T21:18:08+00:00June 21st, 2018|Parenting After Loss, Uncategorized|0 Comments