Why We Name Our Babies with Tender Care

“A good name is more desirable than great riches and loving favor is better than silver and gold."   World English Bible Proverbs 22:1 I once met a woman named Glorious.  Her name was absolutely perfect for her—open, joyful, warm and, frankly, glorious is every way.  She told me that her name had led her [...]

Addressing the Diversity of Experiences in Working with PAL Clients

In working with women who are pregnant again after loss (and their partners), I have realized my task is both simple and complex. While I seek to help clients by normalizing their experience of loss, I also must attend to individual experiences of grief, anger, and fear, as well as moments of joy, relief, and [...]

Staying Strong Together–Navigating Grief as a Couple

When a pregnancy loss occurs and there are two partners, there will inevitably be two individual experiences and two different grief processes. Also, there is a third grief process, the couples’ joint grief. It can be a challenge to navigate pregnancy loss as a couple and as the therapist working with grieving couples. While there [...]

Revisiting My Loss with my Rainbow

Much of what I write about has to do with getting through a pregnancy after a loss. Whenever any member of our community brings a healthy baby home we celebrate. But the PAL journey doesn’t end there.   Pregnancy after loss then becomes parenting after loss. I have heard from many of my clients that the [...]

The Changing Relationship with One’s Body during Pregnancy after Loss

It is not uncommon for women to struggle in pregnancy with their changing bodies. Even when a woman gains the amount of weight suggested by medical guidelines, she may feel uncomfortable or unfamiliar with the changes in her body. She knows that a baby is growing inside her and yet she can at times feel [...]

9 Things Pregnant and Parenting after Loss Moms want you to know about Breastfeeding after Loss

August is Breastfeeding Awareness Month. As the month comes to a close Pregnancy After Loss Support (PALS) wanted to share the unique experiences pregnant and parenting after loss moms (PAL) face when breastfeeding their babies born after loss. Each mom’s breastfeeding journey differs greatly—even between each child—and those journeys are further complicated by loss of [...]

A Conference for Bereaved Parent Advocates

  So many women and men that have experienced the loss of a child go on to become parent advocates. This is a beautiful thing. After the death of a baby, there is this gloom of isolation; the feeling of being alone in the world while carrying a heavy sorrow. I felt this after Zachary [...]

By | 2016-10-13T17:08:00+00:00 July 20th, 2016|For Professionals, Tips from PAL Moms|0 Comments

The Ultrasound during Pregnancy After Loss

The ultrasound is a situation that many women fear if they’ve received bad news in a prior pregnancy during an appointment of this type. Even when a pregnancy is uneventful, women’s experiences of the ultrasound can vary widely. A warm, chatty technician is reassuring for some while for others, someone who appears confident and competent [...]

For Healthcare Professionals: Policy Considerations for the Mom Pregnant after Loss

There are no uniform and adopted guidelines in all hospital and clinic settings that inform perinatal grief practices. Few settings have formalized guidelines to manage this population, and more frequently the policies might be haphazard or are not consistent. Certainly policies are important and reviewing them more so. For pregnancy after a loss (PAL), there [...]

By | 2016-10-13T17:08:15+00:00 June 17th, 2016|For Professionals|0 Comments

Taking medication when pregnant

  With my first pregnancy after loss, my grief over losing the boys was still very raw and close to my heart. I still was showing a lot of symptoms of depression, so my doctor kept me on antidepressant medication. In my case, I was prescribed citalopram. With a small dose, I was able to [...]

By | 2016-10-13T17:08:29+00:00 June 13th, 2016|Emotional Health, For Professionals|0 Comments