Rebecca’s Bump Day Blog, Week 33: Nesting

33 weeks. I'm not sure how we got here. It seems like it was just last week that I found out I was pregnant. I was completely overwhelmed and had no idea how we’d survive 9 months of worrying and waiting to see if we’d get to bring this baby home. Apparently for me, the [...]

Preparing for D-Day (Delivery Day)

You are in the home stretch. You have made it through all (or at least most) of the milestones of a pregnancy after loss: the confirmation ultrasound of hearing the heartbeat, the second ultrasound at 12-weeks that confirmed the heartbeat and the first check to see that all was forming as it should, the blood [...]

By | 2018-04-18T20:30:32+00:00 April 19th, 2018|3rd Trimester, Birth, Emotional Health|0 Comments

Five Lessons on the Birthday of Expecting Sunshine

One thing I have noticed since losing my son, Zachary, is how I appreciate milestones more deeply. I love celebrating the birthdays of my two rainbow babies and my daughter, who was one-year-old when Zach passed away. So too am I grateful to wish my “book baby” a very happy birthday. One year ago today, [...]

Five Pregnancy Loss Helpers from Hell

Recently, I was listening to Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle. This woman has been through a heck of a lot, mostly self-inflicted, but I will give her a lot of credit for having the courage to heal through the haze and pain of her own life. I was listening to the book and I almost [...]

By | 2018-04-10T18:02:01+00:00 April 10th, 2018|Emotional Health, From Professionals|0 Comments

Rebecca’s Bump Day Blog, Week 31: Other Pregnant Ladies

I have been avoiding a woman in my office building for months now. Not because of anything she’s said or done, but because we have similarly sized baby bumps and conversations about pregnancy with people I don’t know are scary for me. She’s noticed me a handful of times and she always looks happy and [...]

You Wouldn’t Have Had Me, Would You?

“Mommy….If Nate and Sam were still alive, you wouldn’t have had me, would you?” A heartbreaking question from my little boy. Realistically, would I have had my rainbows if my sons had survived? Probably not. Maybe one of them, but definitely not both of them. I mean, you’d think the experience of having twin, toddler [...]

By | 2018-04-08T17:27:55+00:00 April 8th, 2018|Emotional Health, Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

Hope During Pregnancy After Loss: Remember What is Possible

Are you having trouble holding onto hope during this season of pregnancy after loss? Maybe you've experienced complications and are worried that you'll lose another baby. Maybe the days are passing just a little too slowly and the journey towards a full-term pregnancy seems endless. Maybe the trauma from pregnancy loss has led to the [...]

The Healing Power of Music

Music brings people together. Literally – thousands of people gather at concerts – and figuratively. Imagine people all around the world humming to the same soundtrack that you have running through your head. Imagine looking over at the car beside you and seeing the driver’s lips moving to the lyrics playing on your radio. I [...]

Trying to conceive after loss: Your top 10 list of what you must know

After my first loss, my thoughts constantly fell on one of two things: mourning the baby we just lost and dreaming of trying again. As much as I deeply ached to still be pregnant with the child we already conceived, the emptiness in my womb now felt unbearable. I was ready to start trying to [...]

By | 2018-03-18T20:17:25+00:00 March 18th, 2018|1st Trimester, Adoption, Emotional Health, Pregnancy, TTC|1 Comment

Will the Worry End?

You made it! You delivered a healthy baby that is living and breathing in your arms after a previous loss. You never thought you would get here as the road was long (or at least felt that way). With this tangible joy that you hold, you take a breath and are grateful that finally, your [...]