When Grief Comes Roaring Back In…

Nearly four years into my journey as a bereaved mother, I understand that there is an ebb and flow to my grief; some days are more difficult, some days are easier.  I also understand that the stages of grief are not nearly as linear as many believe them to be, and moving backwards and forwards [...]

By | 2018-05-17T21:30:10+00:00 May 17th, 2018|Emotional Health|0 Comments

A Meaningful Gift for Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day is a trigger for bereaved Moms. I experience this every year, even seven years after my son Zachary died. I’m grateful for International Bereaved Mother’s Day as an opportunity to celebrate my bond with my child I carry in my heart. Still, the month of May can be hard. This is why I [...]

Wandering Through Sex After Loss

Photo by Toa Heftiba on Unsplash It starts off fun, mysterious. You don't know what to expect. It is everything you thought it would be. It is nothing you thought it would be. As I make the journey through motherhood, loss, and recovery, it changes, transitions as I seem to be. Sex. After our loss, sex [...]

“Is This Your First Pregnancy” and Other Difficult Questions in Pregnancy after Loss

In my support group for women who have terminated pregnancies for a medical reason (TFMR) we often talk about managing triggers, which include difficult questions from others. In a new pregnancy after loss, there are landmines everywhere. It would be impossible to avoid all of them unless you never left your house, but even then [...]

Rebecca’s Bump Day Blog, Week 34: Birth Plan

Giving birth is going to be rough. The anticipation of labor and delivery is already difficult. For us, birth is our point of loss. Concern while the baby was crowning, a quick episiotomy, and an unexpectedly silent baby on my chest were the first moments we knew something was wrong. Facing the end of birth [...]

The 5 Things I Hope You Remember During Your Pregnancy after Loss Journey

The pregnancy after loss journey is...complicated.  It is every emotion that you have ever felt and they are all struggling to exist together.  You may feel like you are faced with an ever-growing list of things to do and remember. I know how that feels.  So, when it all feels too daunting and you doubt [...]

Rebecca’s Bump Day Blog, Week 33: Nesting

33 weeks. I'm not sure how we got here. It seems like it was just last week that I found out I was pregnant. I was completely overwhelmed and had no idea how we’d survive 9 months of worrying and waiting to see if we’d get to bring this baby home. Apparently for me, the [...]

Preparing for D-Day (Delivery Day)

You are in the home stretch. You have made it through all (or at least most) of the milestones of a pregnancy after loss: the confirmation ultrasound of hearing the heartbeat, the second ultrasound at 12-weeks that confirmed the heartbeat and the first check to see that all was forming as it should, the blood [...]

By | 2018-04-18T20:30:32+00:00 April 19th, 2018|3rd Trimester, Birth, Emotional Health|0 Comments

Five Lessons on the Birthday of Expecting Sunshine

One thing I have noticed since losing my son, Zachary, is how I appreciate milestones more deeply. I love celebrating the birthdays of my two rainbow babies and my daughter, who was one-year-old when Zach passed away. So too am I grateful to wish my “book baby” a very happy birthday. One year ago today, [...]

Five Pregnancy Loss Helpers from Hell

Recently, I was listening to Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle. This woman has been through a heck of a lot, mostly self-inflicted, but I will give her a lot of credit for having the courage to heal through the haze and pain of her own life. I was listening to the book and I almost [...]

By | 2018-04-10T18:02:01+00:00 April 10th, 2018|Emotional Health, From Professionals|0 Comments