Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 33 – Preparing for Birth and Beyond

This week has been rather busy with appointments, all focusing on birth and beyond! As we are getting induced at 37 weeks, we actually only have a little over three weeks to go, so now the focus is on birth... Going through the Motions So much of years of fertility treatment, and even grief, is [...]

By | 2017-05-26T09:19:55+00:00 May 26th, 2017|33weeks, 3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

The Post-Mother’s Day Exhalation

For a loss mom, there is no day that is so communally terrifying as Mother’s Day. It is the day where you feel like you were almost invited to the party that all of the “cool kids” get to go to. It’s the day that can feel like an obligation—to celebrate your own mother (if [...]

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 32 – Surpassing Milestones

Some big-ish milestones have been smashed this week! We've spoken about milestones in pregnancy after loss before, and we tend to keep them small, or not too far in the future. Small, short targets feel less daunting. But this week, we've achieved two big milestones; a wedding, and starting maternity leave. Achieving Milestones I appreciate [...]

By | 2017-05-19T11:53:44+00:00 May 19th, 2017|3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 31 – Indulging in Hope, buying Baby Clothes

We've had another gentle week.  We are slowly ticking down the weeks until induction and sussing out what we need or want to do in preparation for Magpie's birth, and hopefully, his homecoming. I've been meaning to talk about the indulgence of buying baby clothes for a while, as its one of those complex things in [...]

By | 2017-05-11T12:29:53+00:00 May 12th, 2017|3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 30 – Looking Back at Leo’s Pregnancy

This week, we made it successfully to Week 30. To go from the 20's to the 30's seems significant enough to note. I think probably because in a pregnancy after loss, every day feels like a bonus. It also means that we are on a bit of the 'home straight'. At times, it feels like [...]

By | 2017-05-05T10:05:23+00:00 May 5th, 2017|30weeks, 3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|1 Comment

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 29 – A Shift

Throughout this pregnancy, I have never really felt pregnant enough. Everything always seems as though it'll be when you get to X weeks or from the third trimester. And it feels now that we are finally at that point. I discussed it last week, but entering the final weeks has shifted things. Being on the cusp of [...]

By | 2017-05-04T08:14:52+00:00 April 28th, 2017|3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

What’s in A Name? A Different View to Naming

At a recent conference, I had the good fortune to run into my friend and colleague (as well as fellow PALS Contributor), Dr. Deborah Simmons. We started a conversation about expectations after loss, and were very interested in some of the perceived rules that seem to follow. From this, we came upon the idea of [...]

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 28 – Slowly Reaching the Summit

Lately, we've felt as if there has been a shift. From day one, it hasn't felt as though we've been walking a steady slope to the end point of this pregnancy. From day one, it has felt like we've been walking up a sheer cliff face. With less walking, but more scrambling, clutching on, climbing. [...]

Managing Classes during Pregnancy After Loss

For many women, becoming pregnant means being included in this special “club”—the “mom club” full of insiders that share their wisdom and tips for motherhood. Part of joining this club means partaking in initiation kinds of activities like pre-natal yoga or birthing class. Once your child is born, you are “allowed” into the full versions [...]