The Post-Mother’s Day Exhalation

For a loss mom, there is no day that is so communally terrifying as Mother’s Day. It is the day where you feel like you were almost invited to the party that all of the “cool kids” get to go to. It’s the day that can feel like an obligation—to celebrate your own mother (if [...]

Storytellers

  The first time I walked through those hospital doors…it didn't feel real. But the extreme pain my body was experiencing kept my mind tied to reality. This was happening. My late-night ER visit was for reasons that every pregnant woman dreads—blood and pain. So much pain. The first time I walked through those hospital [...]

By | 2017-05-18T12:15:46+00:00 May 18th, 2017|1st Trimester, Pregnancy, Uncategorized|0 Comments

What’s in A Name? A Different View to Naming

At a recent conference, I had the good fortune to run into my friend and colleague (as well as fellow PALS Contributor), Dr. Deborah Simmons. We started a conversation about expectations after loss, and were very interested in some of the perceived rules that seem to follow. From this, we came upon the idea of [...]

Laura’s Bump Day Blog, Week 9: The Dream (or, Why I Don’t Tell)

We’ve hit that point – 9 weeks, 2 scans down, and family that really should be told. My mother-in-law visited this weekend and we put a ‘Big Bro’ t-shirt on my rainbow, toasted over dinner, and talked eagerly about holiday plans with a new baby. I smiled in anticipation, as I do allow myself to [...]

By | 2017-04-03T10:03:12+00:00 April 3rd, 2017|1st Trimester, Bump Day Blog|1 Comment

Laura’s Bump Day Blog, Week 8: The Importance of Support

It’s not even 8am, and I’ve already put in a solid hour of tears over coffee and caramel. We’ve been up for hours, despite being on vacation, with no alarm clocks and no responsibilities to anyone but ourselves – but we just can’t sleep. The desire to take advantage of every moment we have with [...]

By | 2017-03-27T11:54:47+00:00 March 27th, 2017|1st Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Mikey’s Bump Day Blog, Week 13: Hello Second Trimester

  "Whisper still, small words of trust And cradle my baby In the warmth of your love. Help me to celebrate The life growing within me." - Laura Kelly Fanucci   After many days and nights of worrying about this day, we have officially hit the second trimester. This is another big milestone on this [...]

Laura’s Bump Day Blog, Week 7: The Long Road Ahead

Well, isn’t this a surprise. I mean, clearly I know how babies are made, but my first two took WORK. Months of TTC and OPKs and SMEP and all the acronyms that you get familiar with quickly, both as a naïve first-time mom and then as a PAL mom, when TTC takes on a whole [...]

By | 2017-03-20T18:05:04+00:00 March 20th, 2017|1st Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Managing Classes during Pregnancy After Loss

For many women, becoming pregnant means being included in this special “club”—the “mom club” full of insiders that share their wisdom and tips for motherhood. Part of joining this club means partaking in initiation kinds of activities like pre-natal yoga or birthing class. Once your child is born, you are “allowed” into the full versions [...]

Let’s Talk About Miscarriage

I never thought it would be me. Maybe it was sweet naivety because this was my first pregnancy. Maybe it was ignorance because I never saw it happen to anyone I knew well. Or maybe it was just misinformation that silence can perpetuate. Whatever the reason, I was far removed from the reality of baby [...]

Mikey’s Bump Day Blog, Week 12: Remembering Amelia

With this week being Pregnancy After Loss Awareness Week, I wanted to take the time to remember my sweet little angel, Amelia. Not a single day goes by that I don’t think about my precious little one. It still doesn’t feel real that my little one died, and often times during my pregnancy after loss [...]