Rachel Lewis

About Rachel Lewis

Rachel Lewis is a foster, adoptive and birth mom. After a 5-year battle with secondary infertility and recurrent pregnancy loss, she now has three children in her arms, five children in heaven and a foster son in her heart. She now considers her family complete after the adoption of her second daughter and the birth of her rainbow baby. Rachel understands what it is like when building your family is just a little complicated, and is passionate about helping women feel heard and understood in their struggles. When she’s not chauffeuring her kids around or working on her upcoming book, you can find her shopping at Trader Joes, drinking coffee, or writing about her journey as a mom at The Lewis Note or as a contributor to Still Standing Magazine. You can get her free resource,  "Your BFF Guide to Miscarriage: 5 Ways to Comfort a Friend Through Pregnancy Loss" here. Connect with Rachel on Facebook, or join her private Facebook group Brave Mamas -- a support group for anyone who had to struggle to build their family.

The Mental Load of a Loss Mom

The mental load of normal mothering is hard enough. But when you add in loss or infertility, the load seems endless. "Next year, he's going to plan at least one of the parties from start to finish ..." I found myself ruminating as I frantically pulled together the last minute items before guests began arriving. [...]

One more way infertility sucks, even when you beat it

The last of my miscarriages was years ago. So it was a surprise that many years and many kids later -- I discover just one more way infertility sucks, even when you beat it.  As I lay down to nurse my toddler to sleep, I scroll absent-mindedly though Facebook, and up an article pops. "This [...]

By |2019-02-17T19:34:58-04:00February 17th, 2019|Loss After Loss, Parenting After Loss|1 Comment

Why I’m Unapologetically Breastfeeding My Toddler Into Her Twos

You might not agree . . . but I honestly don't care. I'm still breastfeeding my toddler -- and I don't plan to stop anytime soon. My rainbow baby is weeks away from turning two. Besides the fact that I’m in complete denial about this, as evidenced by the fact that I refuse to plan [...]

By |2018-11-18T20:19:49-04:00November 18th, 2018|Parenting After Loss, The First Year|1 Comment

When you Miscarry your Rainbow Baby

When you've lost a baby at any time during or after pregnancy, expecting a child again is such a hard balance of hope and fear. And sometimes, no matter how much you don't deserve it, you miscarry your rainbow baby. Here's one mom's experience when the worst happened ... and then happened again.  "I don't [...]

By |2018-09-16T21:50:10-04:00September 16th, 2018|Loss After Loss, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Finding an OB After Pregnancy Loss: 8 Ways You Need Their Support

Dear OB after pregnancy loss, Before we make this “relationship” official, I have a confession. I know my paperwork has already informed you that my number of pregnancies does not equal the number of babies who made it to viability. This gravida/parity equation is simple to read, but carries nuances that can be hard to [...]

By |2018-08-19T19:14:02-04:00August 19th, 2018|1st Trimester, For Professionals, Pregnancy, TTC|0 Comments

6 absolute needs loss moms face when their rainbow baby is sick

Whether it's a high fever, unusual behavior, a bump or fall, or a more serious prognosis -- loss moms often struggle with anxiety when their rainbow baby is sick. I certainly was no exception... When my phone rang as I headed down to our car from the pediatrician's office, my heart sunk. It was the [...]

By |2018-07-15T21:19:14-04:00July 15th, 2018|Parenting After Loss|1 Comment

The Invisible Bravery of Fathers

Over the last few years, the "mental workload" of motherhood has become a hot topic. But sometimes we women lose sight of the very real mental (and emotional) workload of fathers, an invisible bravery that deserves our respect and gratitude: The drive to keep the family afloat during times of crisis, struggle or bereavement in [...]

By |2019-03-28T08:50:52-04:00June 19th, 2018|For Dads, Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

Your High-Risk Pregnancy After Loss: 10 Tips to Help

If pregnancy after loss is a mind game, a high-risk pregnancy after loss is a mind game on crack. When your pregnancy after loss becomes high-risk, you face a double-whammy of a loss of innocence and heightened anxiety and fear. To put it simply, a high-risk pregnancy is one which requires extra measures to increase [...]

By |2018-05-20T20:41:58-04:00May 20th, 2018|Physical Health, Pregnancy, Tips from PAL Moms, TTC|0 Comments

Why fear should not keep you from announcing a baby on the way

Early pregnancy is a time when a woman’s body goes through massive change, most of her baby’s development takes place, and she is at the highest statistical risk at loss. Yet our society demands she endure it all alone. ... "She was barely pregnant . . . " As I read these words, discomfort began to churn [...]

By |2018-04-15T13:04:02-04:00April 15th, 2018|1st Trimester, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Trying to conceive after loss: Your top 10 list of what you must know

After my first loss, my thoughts constantly fell on one of two things: mourning the baby we just lost and dreaming of trying again. As much as I deeply ached to still be pregnant with the child we already conceived, the emptiness in my womb now felt unbearable. I was ready to start trying to [...]

By |2019-03-25T20:38:11-04:00March 18th, 2018|1st Trimester, Adoption, Emotional Health, Pregnancy, TTC|1 Comment