Lindsey Henke

About Lindsey Henke

Lindsey Henke is the founder and Executive Director of Pregnancy After Loss Support, writer, clinical social worker, wife, and most importantly a mother to two beautiful daughters and one sweet-cheeked baby boy. Tragically, her oldest daughter, Nora was stillborn after a healthy full-term pregnancy in December of 2012. Since then, she has turned to writing on her blog, Still Breathing. Lindsey was featured as Pregnancy and Newborn Magazine’s Knocked Up Blogger during her pregnancy with her second daughter, Zoe, who was born healthy and alive in March of 2014. Her writing about life after loss has been featured on Still Standing Magazine, Listen to Your Mother, Scary Mommy, Healthline, Postpartum Progress, and The New York Times. Lindsey can be reached by email.

5 Things that make others uncomfortable about your pregnancy after loss and why it doesn’t matter

1. Talking about your previous pregnancy Loss makes people uncomfortable, so it sort of makes sense that people become uncomfortable listening to us talk about our pregnancies that didn't go as planned. Here is what I say. Talk about them anyway. Your pregnancy with your baby who died was still a beautiful experience where you [...]

5 Things Every Pregnant After Loss Mom Should Do

I'm not usually one to tell others what they "should" do. I actually don't like the word. So maybe instead let's call this list 5 Things Every PAL Mom Deserves to Do For Herself. It's not as catchy of a title, but a least now you know the tips below are more of suggestions than [...]

14 Things No One Tells You About Bringing Home a Baby After Your Previous Baby Died

1. There will be triggers - Your new baby will be a trigger. I still have nights where Zoe, my baby born after a loss, falls asleep in my lap.  With her closed eyes and peaceful stance, she looks like her sister who never opened her eyes - just for a millisecond. It's terrifying and [...]

9 Things I’m Not Doing During My Pregnancy After Loss (and that’s Okay)

During my subsequent pregnancies I have often felt like “I should” being doing this or “I should” be feeling that, which I find ironic. I tell other mothers who are pregnant after loss to be kind with themselves. There are no “shoulds” in pregnancy after loss, or as we say in my work, “Don’t ‘should’ [...]

Reclaiming My Birth Story

Her birth was not what I had planned. Well, actually it went according to plan. She was delivered on time at 37 weeks and 1 day gestation through a scheduled c-section. At 8:47 a.m. her lips breathed her first breath and with a much-awaited and dreamed-of wail, she entered the world screaming, her little being [...]

By |2016-10-13T17:11:52+00:00November 13th, 2015|Birth, Parenting After Loss, Rainbow Birth Stories|3 Comments

Facts about Pregnancy After Loss

At Pregnancy After Loss Support, we work diligently to stay abreast of the latest research that is relevant to pregnancy after loss. We've created this infographic to share some of the basic facts about pregnancy after loss with our community and those who may need educating on the experience of pregnancy after loss. You may embed the infographic on your own website or blog by copying the code below the infographic.

9 Ways to Honor Pregnancy, Infant & Child Loss Month While Pregnant or Parenting After Loss

Two years ago, when I was pregnant with Zoe during the Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance month of October, I found it important for me to create space for and remember Nora while simultaneously preparing to bring life back into the world. It was a challenge to walk that fine line of grief and joy [...]

By |2017-10-02T17:32:21+00:00October 6th, 2015|Emotional Health, Pregnancy, The First Year|2 Comments

What the PAL Mom Packs in Her Hospital Bag

When I was pregnant the first time with my daughter who was stillborn, I remember packing my hospital bag around the seven month mark. I included her cute little take home outfit, pajamas for me and some for my husband along with nursing bras and the outfit I too would wear home from the hospital. [...]

By |2016-10-13T17:12:57+00:00September 30th, 2015|3rd Trimester, Birth, Pregnancy|0 Comments

What Mark Zuckerberg Got Right in His Pregnancy After Loss Announcement and What the Media Missed

Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan's pregnancy announcement. (Photo: Facebook/Mark Zuckerberg) In light of Mark Zuckerberg and Priscilla Chan’s honest and moving pregnancy announcement last week on Facebook, pregnancy loss has been given the added recognition from mainstream media that it deserves. Zuckerberg’s pregnancy announcement was a beautiful example of the complexities that come [...]

Nothing is Guaranteed and That’s What Makes You Courageous

It happened again. It happens more than you might think. It happens weekly. It happened today. A baby died. Not just any baby, but a "rainbow baby." Not mine. Someone else's. A courageous PALS mama just like me lost her hope, her joy, her breath, her life, her baby. Words are lost on me. My body [...]

By |2016-10-13T17:14:16+00:00July 22nd, 2015|Loss After Loss|0 Comments