Lindsey Henke

About Lindsey Henke

Lindsey Henke is the founder and Executive Director of Pregnancy After Loss Support, writer, clinical social worker, wife, and most importantly a mother to two beautiful daughters and one sweet-cheeked baby boy. Tragically, her oldest daughter, Nora was stillborn after a healthy full-term pregnancy in December of 2012. Since then, she has turned to writing on her blog, Still Breathing. Lindsey was featured as Pregnancy and Newborn Magazine’s Knocked Up Blogger during her pregnancy with her second daughter, Zoe, who was born healthy and alive in March of 2014. Her writing about life after loss has been featured on Still Standing Magazine, Listen to Your Mother, Scary Mommy, Healthline, Postpartum Progress, and The New York Times. Lindsey can be reached by email.

6 Ways Family and Friends can Support the Mom Pregnant Again After Loss

After my first pregnancy ended in the stillbirth of my daughter the last thing I wanted to do was think about having another child. I was broken and defeated. I had felt like my body had failed me and that I had failed my daughter, but I more than anything that I wanted to be [...]

By |2018-12-11T18:12:37+00:00December 11th, 2018|For Friends & Family, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Dear Santa, Please Fill all the Stockings

Dear Santa, I’m writing to you this year on behalf of my sweet four-year-old daughter Zoe. She wants you to know that she would like a doctor’s kit, a stuffed giraffe, and a princess dress for Christmas. Zoe has been very good this year. She wanted me to make sure you knew that and that [...]

By |2018-11-30T11:16:35+00:00November 29th, 2018|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

Tips from PAL Moms: Joining a Pregnancy after Loss Support Group

Tips from PAL (pregnant after loss) Moms is a column at PALS Magazine where we ask you, the PAL mom, for feedback about your experience during pregnancy after loss. We ask a question on our Facebook Page and hope that you can help answer it while also benefiting from the answers, all in an effort [...]

Moments with my Rainbow

Photo by Susana Coutinho on Unsplash Moments during Pregnancy “Please, baby, move. Let me know you’re there,” were the words I whisper to her through my third trimester belly upon waking anxiously from a deep sleep. Intuitively I knew two or three hours of slumber had passed where I was not aware of Zoe’s movements, so [...]

By |2018-11-01T15:26:13+00:00November 1st, 2018|Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Pregnancy After Loss Support’s Top Ten Most-Read articles of 2016

PALS (Pregnancy After Loss Support) proudly supports families that are pregnant again after a pregnancy, infant, or child loss. One of the ways we support our community is through our online magazine. We hope to reach even more courageous mamas in 2017! Our most-read articles from 2016: 1. 14 Things No One Tells You About [...]

The Unitentional Shaming of Child Loss Parents

“I’ve kept her alive this far,” I joked to work colleagues around the snacks in the break room, 38-weeks pregnant with swollen feet and belly. It was an innocent joke, or so I thought. Little did I know she would be dead before she was to be born just two weeks later. In the weeks [...]

10 Things I Felt Guilty about as a Pregnancy After Loss Mom

We all have mom guilt. When you are pregnant again after a loss mom guilt takes on a whole new and different meaning. It is a guilt that lives in the present but spans both worlds of life and death. It’s a strange kind of guilt to carry. Here are some things I often feel [...]

10 Things No One Says to the Anxious Pregnancy After Loss Mom (But Probably Should)

During my pregnancy after loss I was SUPER anxious! And you know what, that is TOTALLY normal. A pregnancy that follows a loss is a unique experience, one where the joy of expecting a new baby is riddled with fear. You worry that this baby will die too, just like your previous baby did. It’s [...]

People say the darndest things when you are pregnant again after a loss

“You're pregnant already?” - Why yes, I am! I'm not sure what you mean by this comment. However, my plans for building my family, how I choose to go about it, and when I choose to do it is really not something I need your feedback on or comments about. Thanks! “See, Everything happens for [...]

By |2016-10-13T17:08:41+00:00May 24th, 2016|Pregnancy|8 Comments

5 Things that make others uncomfortable about your pregnancy after loss and why it doesn’t matter

1. Talking about your previous pregnancy Loss makes people uncomfortable, so it sort of makes sense that people become uncomfortable listening to us talk about our pregnancies that didn't go as planned. Here is what I say. Talk about them anyway. Your pregnancy with your baby who died was still a beautiful experience where you [...]