Lindsey Henke

About Lindsey Henke

Lindsey Henke is the founder and Executive Director of Pregnancy After Loss Support, writer, clinical social worker, wife, and most importantly a mother to two beautiful daughters and one sweet-cheeked baby boy. Tragically, her oldest daughter, Nora was stillborn after a healthy full-term pregnancy in December of 2012. Since then, she has turned to writing on her blog, Still Breathing. Lindsey was featured as Pregnancy and Newborn Magazine’s Knocked Up Blogger during her pregnancy with her second daughter, Zoe, who was born healthy and alive in March of 2014. Her writing about life after loss has been featured on Still Standing Magazine, Listen to Your Mother, Scary Mommy, Healthline, Postpartum Progress, and The New York Times. Lindsey can be reached by email.

Marry the Man Who Will Hold Your Dead Baby

Marry the man who buys you tampons while dating because he will be the one who buys the pregnancy tests once married. Marry the man who gets teary eyed when he sees you all dressed up for a date because he’ll be the one who gets a tear in his eye when you tell him [...]

By |2019-04-18T18:45:29-04:00April 18th, 2019|Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy, TTC|0 Comments

Why Rainbow Baby Dads Give Us “All the Feels”

Each year on Father's Day, I engage in the millennial tradition of posting an adorable picture of my two children hugging, kissing, or playing with their dad, giving my husband a proud papa shout out of Facebook. The picture will be filled with love and cuteness as, I am sure, most of yours will be [...]

By |2019-03-25T13:38:21-04:00March 22nd, 2019|For Dads, Parenting After Loss, Reader Favorites|0 Comments

Why Rainbow Baby Mamas Give Us “All the Feels”

A “rainbow baby” is a baby born after the loss of a previous pregnancy, infant, or child, shining hope through the storm clouds of grief over the loss of a baby that came before them. Rainbow baby Mamas are the courageous mothers who choose the hope of having a baby over the fear of another [...]

By |2019-02-28T17:13:39-04:00February 28th, 2019|Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy, Reader Favorites|1 Comment

Why Do You Worry So Much?

“Why do you worry so much?” My husband stated more than asked as I frantically made my way to my nightstand where I kept an extra thermometer and plunged it under my whimpering nine-month-old baby’s arm. When I came home from work I noticed him clutching the coffee table in the living room trying to [...]

By |2019-02-12T19:42:21-04:00February 12th, 2019|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

Why I Throw Shameless Over-the-Top Birthday Parties for my Kids

The first birthday party I threw for my oldest daughter was way over the top for a one year old who wouldn’t even remember it happened. We had a two-tiered rainbow birthday cake with a smash cake and balloons to match, while she wore a rainbow tutu that, as a tomboy myself growing up, I [...]

By |2019-01-30T06:31:06-04:00January 29th, 2019|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

Celebrities that have Opened up about Pregnancy and Child Loss in 2018

With the recent news of Michelle Obama opening up about her struggles with miscarriage and fertility in her new memoir, Becoming, we thought we would acknowledge other loss mamas and papas that have either joined our dreaded club this year or have shared about their long time membership to our club in 2018.   View [...]

By |2018-12-30T15:33:26-04:00December 30th, 2018|Loss After Loss, Pregnancy|0 Comments

What’s in a Name: Stories Behind Rainbow Baby Names

What’s in a name? A lot actually, especially in the world of pregnancy after loss. When I was pregnant with my rainbow baby (a baby born after another baby that has died), I wanted the name of my second child to have meaning. I had worked so hard to get that baby here and I [...]

By |2018-12-23T14:12:28-04:00December 25th, 2018|Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy|0 Comments

12 Ways to Honor Your Child this Holiday Season

Loss parents crave connection with their children who died, and we don’t forget about them during the holidays. We miss our children that left earth too soon even more. We asked our community how they including their children that are no longer with us in their holiday celebrations. Photo by D A V I D [...]

By |2018-12-13T16:51:25-04:00December 13th, 2018|Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy, TTC|0 Comments

6 Ways Family and Friends can Support the Mom Pregnant Again After Loss

After my first pregnancy ended in the stillbirth of my daughter the last thing I wanted to do was think about having another child. I was broken and defeated. I had felt like my body had failed me and that I had failed my daughter, but I more than anything that I wanted to be [...]

By |2018-12-11T18:12:37-04:00December 11th, 2018|For Friends & Family, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Dear Santa, Please Fill all the Stockings

Dear Santa, I’m writing to you this year on behalf of my sweet four-year-old daughter Zoe. She wants you to know that she would like a doctor’s kit, a stuffed giraffe, and a princess dress for Christmas. Zoe has been very good this year. She wanted me to make sure you knew that and that [...]

By |2018-11-30T11:16:35-04:00November 29th, 2018|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments