Lindsey Henke

About Lindsey Henke

Lindsey Henke is the founder and Executive Director of Pregnancy After Loss Support, writer, clinical social worker, wife, and most importantly a mother to two beautiful daughters and one sweet-cheeked baby boy. Tragically, her oldest daughter, Nora was stillborn after a healthy full-term pregnancy in December of 2012. Since then, she has turned to writing on her blog, Still Breathing. Lindsey was featured as Pregnancy and Newborn Magazine’s Knocked Up Blogger during her pregnancy with her second daughter, Zoe, who was born healthy and alive in March of 2014. Her writing about life after loss has been featured on Still Standing Magazine, Listen to Your Mother, Scary Mommy, Healthline, Postpartum Progress, and The New York Times. Lindsey can be reached by email.

Pregnancy After Loss Support’s Top Ten Most-Read articles of 2016

PALS (Pregnancy After Loss Support) proudly supports families that are pregnant again after a pregnancy, infant, or child loss. One of the ways we support our community is through our online magazine. We hope to reach even more courageous mamas in 2017! Our most-read articles from 2016: 1. 14 Things No One Tells You About [...]

The Unitentional Shaming of Child Loss Parents

“I’ve kept her alive this far,” I joked to work colleagues around the snacks in the break room, 38-weeks pregnant with swollen feet and belly. It was an innocent joke, or so I thought. Little did I know she would be dead before she was to be born just two weeks later. In the weeks [...]

10 Things I Felt Guilty about as a Pregnancy After Loss Mom

We all have mom guilt. When you are pregnant again after a loss mom guilt takes on a whole new and different meaning. It is a guilt that lives in the present but spans both worlds of life and death. It’s a strange kind of guilt to carry. Here are some things I often feel [...]

10 Things No One Says to the Anxious Pregnancy After Loss Mom (But Probably Should)

During my pregnancy after loss I was SUPER anxious! And you know what, that is TOTALLY normal. A pregnancy that follows a loss is a unique experience, one where the joy of expecting a new baby is riddled with fear. You worry that this baby will die too, just like your previous baby did. It’s [...]

People say the darndest things when you are pregnant again after a loss

“You're pregnant already?” - Why yes, I am! I'm not sure what you mean by this comment. However, my plans for building my family, how I choose to go about it, and when I choose to do it is really not something I need your feedback on or comments about. Thanks! “See, Everything happens for [...]

By | 2016-10-13T17:08:41+00:00 May 24th, 2016|Pregnancy|3 Comments

5 Things that make others uncomfortable about your pregnancy after loss and why it doesn’t matter

1) Talking about your previous pregnancy - Loss makes people uncomfortable, so it sort of makes sense that people become uncomfortable listening to us talk about our pregnancies that didn't go as planned. Here is what I say. Talk about them anyway. Your pregnancy with your baby who died was still a beautiful experience where you [...]

By | 2016-10-13T17:08:59+00:00 April 28th, 2016|1st Trimester, 2nd Trimester, 3rd Trimester, Pregnancy|0 Comments

5 Things Every Pregnant After Loss Mom Should Do

I'm not usually one to tell others what they "should" do. I actually don't like the word. So maybe instead let's call this list 5 Things Every PAL Mom Deserves to Do For Herself. It's not as catchy of a title, but a least now you know the tips below are more of suggestions than [...]

14 Things No One Tells You About Bringing Home a Baby After Your Previous Baby Died

1. There will be triggers - Your new baby will be a trigger. I still have nights where Zoe, my baby born after a loss, falls asleep in my lap.  With her closed eyes and peaceful stance, she looks like her sister who never opened her eyes - just for a millisecond. It's terrifying and [...]

9 Things I’m Not Doing During My Pregnancy After Loss (and that’s Okay)

During my subsequent pregnancies I have often felt like “I should” being doing this or “I should” be feeling that, which I find ironic. I tell other mothers who are pregnant after loss to be kind with themselves. There are no “shoulds” in pregnancy after loss, or as we say in my work, “Don’t ‘should’ [...]

Reclaiming My Birth Story

Her birth was not what I had planned. Well, actually it went according to plan. She was delivered on time at 37 weeks and 1 day gestation through a scheduled c-section. At 8:47 a.m. her lips breathed her first breath and with a much-awaited and dreamed-of wail, she entered the world screaming, her little being [...]

By | 2016-10-13T17:11:52+00:00 November 13th, 2015|Birth, Parenting After Loss, Rainbow Birth Stories|3 Comments