Kristi Bothur

About Kristi Bothur

Kristi Bothur is a wife, mother, educator, blogger, and freelance writer. She has seven children - two on Earth and five in Heaven. She and her husband Eric founded Naomi's Circle, a faith-based pregnancy and infant loss ministry, as a result of walking the road of first and second trimester pregnancy loss, as well as the journey of pregnancy after loss. Kristi is a contributing editor of the ebook devotional Rainbows and Redemption: Encouragement for the Journey of Pregnancy After Loss and a co-author of Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother. She has been a guest blogger on Grace for Moms, the MOB Society, and Still Standing, among others. She is passionate about helping women find their spiritual footing when life's messes catch them by surprise. She believes in being real with God and with each other, and refuses to give wishy-washy answers to nitty-gritty problems. She reaches out to bereaved parents through the Naomi's Circle ministry, through her writing on the Columbia SC Moms Blog and Mommies with Hope, and through her personal blog, This Side of Heaven. Kristi lives in South Carolina with her husband and living children, where she homeschools, is active in her church, and embraces the life that God has given her.

Leaving her behind

I remember how I felt January 1st of 2010. The previous year, 2009, ranked right up there with "worst year ever." Long story short, in the space of twelve months, I had three cancer scares, three major surgeries, three minor surgeries, and lost two babies during pregnancy - Naomi at nearly 19 weeks and Kyria [...]

By | 2018-01-04T21:26:31+00:00 January 4th, 2018|Loss After Loss, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Pregnant after Loss for the Holidays

I've been pregnant for Christmas three times. The first time was with my oldest daughter, who is now nine. She was conceived after several years of trying and hoping and praying. My due date was late January, so I was "great with child" that December, and greatly enjoyed the attention and the intimate connection I felt [...]

By | 2017-11-30T21:16:08+00:00 November 30th, 2017|25 weeks, Emotional Health, Pregnancy|0 Comments

We don’t deserve it

I'm sure you've seen the pictures from Houston and other communities who have been impacted by Hurricane Harvey. In some cases, whole towns have been under water. In others, some neighborhoods on higher ground came through the storm relatively unscathed, while those in low-lying areas were submerged. Lives have been lost, sometimes for no reason [...]

By | 2017-09-01T08:25:59+00:00 September 1st, 2017|Loss After Loss, Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy|0 Comments


We went to a family reunion recently and had a perfectly lovely time. The weather was perfect, the activities were fun, and meeting or getting reacquainted with cousins first, second, and third-time removed was delightful. The last time we saw most of this side of the family was pre-kids, so it was particularly wonderful to [...]

By | 2017-08-04T07:37:18+00:00 August 4th, 2017|Emotional Health, Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

When are you ready?

I lost my daughter Naomi at nearly 19 weeks through a "perfect storm" of medical issues that threatened my life. I had been hospitalized with unmanageable abdominal pain unrelated to my pregnancy, only to have my baby born sleeping, followed by emergency surgery the next day.  I was sicker than I had ever been in [...]

By | 2017-06-16T07:36:03+00:00 June 16th, 2017|Emotional Health, TTC|0 Comments

Learning to celebrate Mother’s Day

I had a whole lot of hard Mother's Days and one good one from the time we started trying to have children until the time our rainbow baby was born. Mother's Day the first year we were trying to get pregnant was not too bad. After all, everyone knows that it may take a little [...]

With arms both full and empty

My rainbow baby turned five last week, and there is something momentous about that, because he isn't a baby anymore. He will graduate from preschool in a couple of months and we will begin homeschool kindergarten, alongside his fourth grade sister. They will fuss at and love on one another, fiercely, and I will fuss [...]

By | 2017-04-07T10:15:16+00:00 April 7th, 2017|Parenting After Loss, TTC|0 Comments