Kristi Bothur

About Kristi Bothur

Kristi Bothur is a wife, mother, educator, blogger, and freelance writer. She has seven children - two on Earth and five in Heaven. She and her husband Eric founded Naomi's Circle, a faith-based pregnancy and infant loss ministry, as a result of walking the road of first and second trimester pregnancy loss, as well as the journey of pregnancy after loss. Kristi is a contributing editor of the ebook devotional Rainbows and Redemption: Encouragement for the Journey of Pregnancy After Loss and a co-author of Sunshine After the Storm: A Survival Guide for the Grieving Mother. She has been a guest blogger on Grace for Moms, the MOB Society, and Still Standing, among others. She is passionate about helping women find their spiritual footing when life's messes catch them by surprise. She believes in being real with God and with each other, and refuses to give wishy-washy answers to nitty-gritty problems. She reaches out to bereaved parents through the Naomi's Circle ministry, through her writing on the Columbia SC Moms Blog and Mommies with Hope, and through her personal blog, This Side of Heaven. Kristi lives in South Carolina with her husband and living children, where she homeschools, is active in her church, and embraces the life that God has given her.

The story behind the numbers

There is a piece of paper held on my refrigerator with a magnet. It has been there for nearly 7 years, and every time I go through the jungle of children's artwork, prayer reminders, and Christmas photos that have found their way there, it survives. It tells a story, and it reminds me of three [...]

By |2018-05-31T20:40:35-04:00May 31st, 2018|1st Trimester, Emotional Health, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Already a mom

Photo by Ian Schneider on Unsplash I have two living children. My daughter was born after several years of "unexplained infertility". My son was born four years later, after several years of heartbreaking losses in my first and second trimesters. I remember how confusing that Mother's Day was after he was born. My son was a [...]

Leaving her behind

I remember how I felt January 1st of 2010. The previous year, 2009, ranked right up there with "worst year ever." Long story short, in the space of twelve months, I had three cancer scares, three major surgeries, three minor surgeries, and lost two babies during pregnancy - Naomi at nearly 19 weeks and Kyria [...]

By |2018-01-04T21:26:31-04:00January 4th, 2018|Loss After Loss, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Pregnant after Loss for the Holidays

I've been pregnant for Christmas three times. The first time was with my oldest daughter, who is now nine. She was conceived after several years of trying and hoping and praying. My due date was late January, so I was "great with child" that December, and greatly enjoyed the attention and the intimate connection I felt [...]

By |2017-11-30T21:16:08-04:00November 30th, 2017|25 weeks, Emotional Health, Pregnancy|0 Comments

We don’t deserve it

I'm sure you've seen the pictures from Houston and other communities who have been impacted by Hurricane Harvey. In some cases, whole towns have been under water. In others, some neighborhoods on higher ground came through the storm relatively unscathed, while those in low-lying areas were submerged. Lives have been lost, sometimes for no reason [...]

By |2017-09-01T08:25:59-04:00September 1st, 2017|Loss After Loss, Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy|0 Comments


We went to a family reunion recently and had a perfectly lovely time. The weather was perfect, the activities were fun, and meeting or getting reacquainted with cousins first, second, and third-time removed was delightful. The last time we saw most of this side of the family was pre-kids, so it was particularly wonderful to [...]

By |2017-08-04T07:37:18-04:00August 4th, 2017|Emotional Health, Parenting After Loss|0 Comments