Dr. Julie Bindeman

About Dr. Julie Bindeman

Dr. Julie Bindeman is a reproductive psychologist and co-director of Integrative Therapy of Greater Washington outside of the Nation’s Capital. No stranger to loss, Dr. Bindeman is the mother of 6 children–three of which she can cuddle in her arms while three live in her heart. She contributes regularly to Reconceiving Loss, writes professionally, and is an ardent advocate for Women’s Rights.

What if it works?

So much of a pregnancy after loss is spent with the all consuming thought: what if it doesn’t work this time too? That thought can linger in the recesses of a person’s mind and grow louder. It tends to crescendo right before a sonogram or a doctor’s appointment, and then fades dramatically once there is [...]

By | 2017-11-16T17:27:46+00:00 November 16th, 2017|Emotional Health, From Professionals, Pregnancy|0 Comments

The Context of Loss on Parenting

During the pregnancy after loss journey, there is a lot of focus on what the pregnancy experience is like (and for good reason). This experience is often compared to the experience of the previous loss pregnancy, which can bring up both anxiety and comfort. Thoughts about making it past the “loss milestone” can dominate the [...]

Pregnancy after Loss as a See-Saw

As a kid, a popular playground activity was the see-saw: a simplistic device that promotes relationships and excitement. We would take turns going up and down in either a rhythmic way or erratically to promote the most thrills. I loved the metronome-like quality of it as it was almost hypnotic for me. Recently, I began [...]

What’s “Normal” (anxiety) Anyway?

It is normal to be a little anxious about a first pregnancy: the sensations are new, it might bring up normal concerns about what will your parenting look like, and overall, it is a novel experience that you don’t have anything to compare it with as a reference. What is normal in a pregnancy after [...]

The Post-Mother’s Day Exhalation

For a loss mom, there is no day that is so communally terrifying as Mother’s Day. It is the day where you feel like you were almost invited to the party that all of the “cool kids” get to go to. It’s the day that can feel like an obligation—to celebrate your own mother (if [...]

What’s in A Name? A Different View to Naming

At a recent conference, I had the good fortune to run into my friend and colleague (as well as fellow PALS Contributor), Dr. Deborah Simmons. We started a conversation about expectations after loss, and were very interested in some of the perceived rules that seem to follow. From this, we came upon the idea of [...]

Managing Classes during Pregnancy After Loss

For many women, becoming pregnant means being included in this special “club”—the “mom club” full of insiders that share their wisdom and tips for motherhood. Part of joining this club means partaking in initiation kinds of activities like pre-natal yoga or birthing class. Once your child is born, you are “allowed” into the full versions [...]

Dear PAL Mama…There is Safety Here

Dear PAL Mama, Maybe you are new to this designation as a “Babyloss mom” or maybe you’ve known this role for several years. Perhaps this is your first pregnancy after loss or you’ve been down this road before. It’s possible that you have living children or maybe you’ve endured several pregnancies without knowing when you’ll [...]

By | 2017-02-21T22:32:03+00:00 February 22nd, 2017|Love Letters, PAL Fourth Annual Love Letters|0 Comments

Ask the Expert: Scared to take a Pregnancy Test

Ask the Expert is a column at Pregnancy After Loss Support (PALS) where members of the community ask questions of experts who treat moms who are pregnant after loss. Visit our Ask the Expert page to submit a question. *Disclaimer: Pregnancy After Loss Support does not give medical or psychological advice. We are strictly a peer-to-peer support resource [...]

By | 2017-01-30T12:07:09+00:00 January 30th, 2017|1st Trimester, Ask the Expert, TTC|0 Comments

Can I Love Another Baby?

Love grows. It might seem unimaginable that there is space in your heart to love more, yet that space is created. Think about the love you have for your partner. For most of us, that love didn’t happen overnight. It might have started as a kernel we thought of as friendship or attraction. It expanded [...]