Jessica Clasby-Monk

About Jessica Clasby-Monk

Jessica Clasby-Monk and her wife, Natalie, went through fertility treatment shortly after getting married in 2011, and on their second IVF Jessica fell pregnant with their son. After a straightforward pregnancy, in January 2016, they discovered that Leo had unexpectedly died, and he was born a few days later. In July that year, Jessica was pregnant again but sadly miscarried at 6 weeks. Now into her third pregnancy, they are quietly hopeful for a different outcome. Since Leo was born, Jessica has openly shared their journey on her blog "The Legacy of Leo". You can follow Jessica on her blog, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 24 – Reaching Viability, Planning & Celebrating

Week 24 of Magpie's pregnancy has been busy. Reaching a siginificant goal, scan and consultant appointments, and my thirtieth birthday celebrations. Reaching Viability This week signifies our biggest milestone yet: viability. It is something that I have spoken about quite a bit over the last few weeks, mainly due to it looming, almost teasing us. [...]

By | 2017-03-24T09:44:59+00:00 March 24th, 2017|24weeks, 2nd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 23 – Anxiety Spirals & Awaiting Milestones

I had a suspicion that my anxiety could peak this week. I probably created it, as week 24 has been my main goal for quite a while. As I discussed last week, it's the viability marker in the UK and so I've been pushing for it for so long. As if it was the finish [...]

By | 2017-03-17T11:05:58+00:00 March 17th, 2017|23weeks, 2nd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 22 – Time in PAL

This past week or so has felt a lot quieter in terms of appointments. We seem to go through phases of intensity, and then a much needed break from it all. Yet, the breaks really can make it feel like time is going quite slowly. I find it's quite important to find a balance in [...]

By | 2017-03-10T09:47:55+00:00 March 10th, 2017|22weeks, 2nd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 21 – Hitting Maximum

We've been grieving for over a year now. In that time, we lost another baby, and have started growing our third. I've come to realise lately that the myth I knew to be false of it gets easier with time truly is false. There was a safety net in the early days of grief, you didn't have [...]

By | 2017-03-03T11:58:37+00:00 March 3rd, 2017|21weeks, 2nd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 20 – Revisiting Places of Trauma

On Monday, we made it to the official half way mark of this pregnancy. Although, in reality, I know we are beyond that, as whilst I don't know when our end point (all being well of course) will be, it most certainly won't be 40 weeks. There will be magicians involved for me to be able [...]

By | 2017-02-24T09:48:23+00:00 February 24th, 2017|20weeks, 2nd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog : Week 19 – Embracing the Lighter Moments

This week has felt lighter than recent weeks - relatively at least, but it's welcome nonetheless. Since the New Year and my phased return to work being complete, I've been working Monday - Thursday. When I planned my return, I decided to drop my Fridays. I reasoned that the energy needed to grieve required an [...]

By | 2017-02-17T09:13:08+00:00 February 17th, 2017|19weeks, 2nd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Dear Mama, Who is Terrified of Having to Say Goodbye Again

Dear Mama, Are you scared? Are you scared everyday in this pregnancy that you will have to say goodbye again? Say goodbye to your child, again?  Are you scared of not ever knowing how this will turn out? Of not knowing what the future holds? Of hearing those words, the silence, of breaking the news? [...]

By | 2017-02-14T07:50:16+00:00 February 14th, 2017|Love Letters, PAL Fourth Annual Love Letters|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 18: Gender Dilemmas

Last week, at our scan, we had it confirmed that Magpie is indeed a boy. A little brother for Leo.  We knew early on that we would want to find out the gender of Magpie, as we had done with Leo. I wanted to give us time to process the information - girl or boy [...]

By | 2017-02-10T07:22:16+00:00 February 10th, 2017|2nd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 17: Reaching Milestones

This week we have reached two big milestones; feeling movements and visiting Tommy's Rainbow Clinic.   Feeling Movements  I started feeling movements at the weekend. Before this, I'd felt 'things' but had never been convinced it was movements. I'd started feeling that bubbly feeling quite a while ago, but I have felt it in-between Leo's pregnancy [...]

By | 2017-02-03T09:16:24+00:00 February 3rd, 2017|2nd Trimester, Bump Day Blog, Pregnancy|1 Comment

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 16: The Intensity is Increasing

I keep trying to write the beginning of this update, and I don't really know where to start. The past two weeks have been filled with the full array of emotions; hopelessness, fear, joy, love, relief, grief, longing, hope. I guess as a result, the past two weeks are the perfect snapshot of what this [...]

By | 2017-01-29T10:43:23+00:00 January 27th, 2017|16weeks, 2nd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|1 Comment