Jessica Clasby-Monk

About Jessica Clasby-Monk

Jessica Clasby-Monk and her wife, Natalie, went through fertility treatment shortly after getting married in 2011, and on their second IVF Jessica fell pregnant with their son. After a straightforward pregnancy, in January 2016, they discovered that Leo had unexpectedly died, and he was born a few days later. In July that year, Jessica was pregnant again but sadly miscarried at 6 weeks. Now into her third pregnancy, they are quietly hopeful for a different outcome. Since Leo was born, Jessica has openly shared their journey on her blog "The Legacy of Leo". You can follow Jessica on her blog, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Eli River’s Birth Story

For quite some time, we had the 19th June scheduled for Eli's induction. It would place us at exactly 37 weeks, and felt like a safe time to plan it. Leo had died at 37 plus 1 weeks, and we understand the benefits of getting as close to term as possible for various different outcomes. [...]

By | 2017-07-14T11:01:59+00:00 July 14th, 2017|Birth, Rainbow Birth Stories|1 Comment

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 35 – Admission

Week 35 has taken an unexpected curve ball, in the fact that I've been admitted to hospital. All is well physically, but I was beginning to loose my grip. As I said last week, the anxiety was rebuilding. As a result, I lost my ability to trust any movements, myself or my faith in everything [...]

By | 2017-06-09T08:41:34+00:00 June 9th, 2017|3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 34 – The Rumblings

For the past week or so, I have felt my anxiety start to rise again. Whilst we've had a calm run through the third trimester, I have started to feel that those rumblings have been getting louder, and louder. They aren't overwhelming (yet) but they are most certainly gaining attention. The Rumblings I have become less convinced [...]

By | 2017-06-02T10:11:47+00:00 June 2nd, 2017|3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 33 – Preparing for Birth and Beyond

This week has been rather busy with appointments, all focusing on birth and beyond! As we are getting induced at 37 weeks, we actually only have a little over three weeks to go, so now the focus is on birth... Going through the Motions So much of years of fertility treatment, and even grief, is [...]

By | 2017-05-26T09:19:55+00:00 May 26th, 2017|33weeks, 3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 32 – Surpassing Milestones

Some big-ish milestones have been smashed this week! We've spoken about milestones in pregnancy after loss before, and we tend to keep them small, or not too far in the future. Small, short targets feel less daunting. But this week, we've achieved two big milestones; a wedding, and starting maternity leave. Achieving Milestones I appreciate [...]

By | 2017-05-19T11:53:44+00:00 May 19th, 2017|3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 31 – Indulging in Hope, buying Baby Clothes

We've had another gentle week.  We are slowly ticking down the weeks until induction and sussing out what we need or want to do in preparation for Magpie's birth, and hopefully, his homecoming. I've been meaning to talk about the indulgence of buying baby clothes for a while, as its one of those complex things in [...]

By | 2017-05-11T12:29:53+00:00 May 12th, 2017|3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 30 – Looking Back at Leo’s Pregnancy

This week, we made it successfully to Week 30. To go from the 20's to the 30's seems significant enough to note. I think probably because in a pregnancy after loss, every day feels like a bonus. It also means that we are on a bit of the 'home straight'. At times, it feels like [...]

By | 2017-05-05T10:05:23+00:00 May 5th, 2017|30weeks, 3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|1 Comment

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 29 – A Shift

Throughout this pregnancy, I have never really felt pregnant enough. Everything always seems as though it'll be when you get to X weeks or from the third trimester. And it feels now that we are finally at that point. I discussed it last week, but entering the final weeks has shifted things. Being on the cusp of [...]

By | 2017-05-04T08:14:52+00:00 April 28th, 2017|3rd Trimester, Bump Day Blog|0 Comments

Jessica’s Bump Day Blog, Week 28 – Slowly Reaching the Summit

Lately, we've felt as if there has been a shift. From day one, it hasn't felt as though we've been walking a steady slope to the end point of this pregnancy. From day one, it has felt like we've been walking up a sheer cliff face. With less walking, but more scrambling, clutching on, climbing. [...]