Heather Butler

About Heather Butler

Heather Butler is a proud Colorado native and a mountain girl through and through. She is married to her best friend and lumberjack of a husband. They have 2 daughters (who are by far the coolest little people ever) and 1 on the way. They also have 2 precious heaven babies who were lost in miscarriages at 13 weeks and 5 weeks. Although all too brief, their little lives continually reveal a lifetime's worth of beauty and truth. Through their entrances into heaven, Heather found her calling and passion in life-to walk alongside other women in their journey of loss and healing-and is currently writing her first book on the topic. Heather shares her adventures as a wife, momma and woman on her website, Faithfulness Declared.

Let’s Talk About Miscarriage

I never thought it would be me. Maybe it was sweet naivety because this was my first pregnancy. Maybe it was ignorance because I never saw it happen to anyone I knew well. Or maybe it was just misinformation that silence can perpetuate. Whatever the reason, I was far removed from the reality of baby [...]

Dear New Year

Dear New Year, Everyone is calling you happy. Everyone else is rejoicing in the fresh start, new beginning and adventures you are bringing them, but I am meeting you broken. I lost my baby a few weeks before you appeared, and to me, you are not happy or fresh or new. Time no longer applies [...]

The Ache of Christmas Eve

It was autumn. The leaves were turning colors and the air was crisp. The cool temperatures were intensifying daily and making way for snowflakes that would soon fall to earth. It was beautiful. And lovely. And pain-filled. A few weeks prior, I had lost my baby at 13 weeks. Since retailers gear up for Christmas [...]

By |2016-12-22T07:50:33-04:00December 22nd, 2016|13weeks, 1st Trimester, Pregnancy|7 Comments

Giving Them Names

To say the grieving process is a complicated thing would be a major understatement. There is no straight line to healing. In my own experience I’ve felt that my healing process is more of a constantly changing spiral than a line. I have found myself many times spiraling back to familiar pains that I thought [...]

By |2016-11-18T08:15:22-04:00November 18th, 2016|13weeks, 1st Trimester, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Announcing My Pregnancy After Loss

Moments after I lost my first baby at 13 weeks, a chaplain walked into my room, carrying a mint green shawl. As he laid it down the length of my body, he explained that volunteers crochet them to comfort grieving mothers—mothers who lose babies and leave the hospital with empty wombs and hearts. I slept [...]

By |2016-10-13T17:07:35-04:00September 15th, 2016|Pregnancy, Pregnancy Announcement|0 Comments

Branded, Marked & Tattooed

Almost immediately after I lost my first baby at 13 weeks, I wanted a tattoo as a physical reminder of my baby. After the marks of trauma had disappeared and the pain had subsided, the emotional wound remained. I felt marked forever—my heart was broken, never to return to its former shape. But on the [...]

Elijah’s Birth Story

After fully waking up at 2am and realizing I had been tossing and turning through painful contractions all night, I decided to go downstairs and make some tea. I turned on the television to distract myself and started timing the contractions. They were a consistent 20 minutes apart and every single one of them made [...]

By |2016-10-13T17:08:14-04:00June 29th, 2016|3rd Trimester, Birth, Rainbow Birth Stories|0 Comments

Heather’s Bump Day Blog, Week 38: Ready? Set? No.

Less than 2 weeks separate me and the greatly anticipated birth day! (*Cue the confetti and party whistles*) I don’t know if it’s because this pregnancy has flown by, or if it’s just a natural heartache for a momma to know a pregnancy is almost finished, but my mind has a hard time wrapping itself [...]

Heather’s Bump Day Blog, Week 36: Aqua Colored Everything

I took the official mirror pregnant picture the other day. That's required, right? Ok, good. We are in week 36. Unreal. Especially considering the fact that my youngest daughter arrived at 38 weeks. My appointments are now weekly. And we have started what my husband and I call the “expiration date stage.” No, it has [...]

By |2016-10-13T17:08:59-04:00April 28th, 2016|Bump Day Blog|2 Comments