Anne Mathay

About Anne Mathay

Anne Mathay is the former Development Director for Pregnancy After Loss Support. She has struggled with infertility for the last five years, along with a miscarriage in 2010 and the stillbirth of her son Henry in 2012. In April 2014, Anne and her husband welcomed their rainbow baby. Since her losses, Anne has become active with many organizations that promote healthy pregnancy, loss and awareness, and children's health. She has found her voice through Knocked Up And Down, a blog that chronicles her struggles, triumphs, and hope surrounding pregnancy and parenting. Anne lives in Delaware with her husband, daughter, and dog. You can also follow her on Twitter.

The Day You Found Out

Photo by Carolyn V on Unsplash It was President Reagan who first recognized October as Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month in 1988. Five or six years later, the International Wave of Light began as a way to stretch love and awareness over the world for 24 hours. You may or may not remember these dates. [...]

By |2018-10-14T20:02:48-04:00October 14th, 2018|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

It’s Not You, It’s Me: The Breakup

On January 23rd, 2018, my son entered this world, alive and healthy. Alex Claude Mathay was my fourth (and now final) pregnancy. After a miscarriage in 2010 and a stillbirth in 2012, Elise was born in 2014. For almost four years, she has been the celebrated rainbow baby. She’s the first living grandchild on both [...]

By |2018-04-05T12:35:51-04:00April 5th, 2018|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

The Surprise

Three years ago, my body did the impossible- it gave birth to a live, healthy baby. She wasn’t miscarried at 12 weeks like my first pregnancy. She wasn’t stillborn at 33 weeks like my second pregnancy. She was alive and screaming and full of life, and still is, something I will never take for granted. [...]

By |2017-07-27T12:35:17-04:00July 28th, 2017|2nd Trimester, Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy|0 Comments

The Beating Heart

Editor’s Note: We at Pregnancy After Loss Support (PALS) know that we serve many moms from diverse backgrounds and experiences. The following is one mom’s response to the Heartbeat Bill proposed in Ohio. This article may not resonate with you, and that is ok, but we will not tolerate any shaming or judgmental language in response to [...]

By |2016-12-15T11:25:00-04:00December 15th, 2016|Loss After Loss, Parenting After Loss, Pregnancy, TFMR|0 Comments

Separation While PAL or Parenting After Loss

Some of you may read this and shudder to think that someone would consider separating from their partner while PAL or parenting after loss.  Others will wonder why this hasn't been talked about sooner.  Surviving the loss of a child is hard on a partnership.  Parenting is hard, too.  Sometimes, this makes the perfect storm. [...]

Five Ways To Refocus Your Pregnancy after Loss Journey On YOU

If you're pregnant with a rainbow baby, so much focus is put on the pregnancy that we almost seem to lose ourselves in the process. When I look back at my rainbow pregnancy, I couldn't tell you if I went to yoga, had a pedicure, or went out with a friend for coffee or ice [...]

By |2016-10-13T17:10:57-04:00January 13th, 2016|Emotional Health, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Take The Plunge

A big part of my grieving process has been through service to others. When I look back at 2015, I’m proud of the work that I’ve done. I’m even more proud of the work that those close to me have done. I’ve been very fortunate to work with some amazing people, personally and professionally, who [...]

By |2016-10-13T17:11:29-04:00December 3rd, 2015|Emotional Health, The First Year|0 Comments

I am Allowed

What are you capable of? This answer probably varies depending on the day, the time, or how much sleep (and coffee) you’ve had. Are these capabilities defined by you, or are they defined by others? I’m aware of the pressure I put on myself, but most of the time I ignore it. Lately, I’ve been [...]

By |2016-10-13T17:12:05-04:00November 5th, 2015|Emotional Health, Parenting After Loss|1 Comment