Amanda Ross-White

About Amanda Ross-White

Amanda Ross-White’s first pregnancy ended in the stillbirth of her twins, Nathaniel and Samuel, in 2007. Since then, she has had two miscarriages, and two successful pregnancies, her daughter born safe in 2009 and her son in 2012. She is also the author of Joy at the End of the Rainbow: A Guide to Pregnancy After a Loss.

This isn’t a real problem

“This isn’t a real problem.” That's what I was told, anyway. That pregnancy after a loss wasn't a problem for women. After all, stillbirth hardly happens any more these days. Besides, even if it does, it is so rare it would never happen again. Your next pregnancy will be fine. Relax! When I was anxious [...]

By |2018-01-14T16:10:27+00:00January 7th, 2018|From Professionals, Pregnancy|0 Comments

Christmas Ornaments

Before they were born, which is interesting, because they were born in September, my boys were given Christmas ornaments. Two snowmen medallions, given to me by my aunt, who I always associate with Christmas, because it was her favourite holiday. On the back, after they were born, I had inscribed their names. These are Nate [...]

By |2017-12-10T20:29:10+00:00December 10th, 2017|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

When you’re Scared of Ultrasounds

The dreaded ultrasound machine I need to have an ultrasound. I’m not pregnant, and it’s for an issue totally not related to my pregnancies, but I’m still uncomfortable. Even though my appointment isn’t until Wednesday, I’m anxious, and having trouble sleeping. I know there’s nothing to be scared of. An ultrasound isn’t painful. [...]

By |2017-11-05T21:21:56+00:00November 5th, 2017|Emotional Health, Physical Health|1 Comment

Don’t Sleep on your Back: a report from ISA Cork

Amulets for Nate and Sam The International Stillbirth Alliance (ISA) Conference was going to be on September 23-24th. I saw that as a sign. This was going to fall on Nate and Sam’s 10th birthday. I had been to the previous ISA conference, in Vancouver in 2015. It was so well organized and [...]

The way life should be

{This post contains affiliate links at no additional cost to you.} Maine. Vacationland. The way life should be. At least, that’s the slogan from the tourist board. And as I sit in the sand watching my crazy kids run in and out of the waves, their lips blue from the frigid Atlantic, it sure feels [...]

By |2017-09-11T09:51:15+00:00September 11th, 2017|Parenting After Loss|0 Comments

When you are a mother

So many times I heard this phrase: "When you are a mother." It is always meant casually, sometimes even as a joke. “Sleep now, because when you are a mother….” Or “When you are a mother, you’ll see things differently.” Another phrase that should come with a warning. When do you become a mother? I [...]

My book is here! Joy at the End of the Rainbow

I’m a librarian, so maybe it’s natural that when I became pregnant again after a loss, the first thing I did was look for a book. I had my copy of What to Expect When You’re Expecting that my husband had given me when I was first pregnant. But as I looked through it for [...]

By |2017-07-10T11:59:39+00:00July 10th, 2017|For Professionals, From Professionals|0 Comments

Mary, Did You Know?

The first few Christmases after my sons died were unbearable. Having Jesus as a baby, when you have no baby in your arms, was incredibly difficult. Seeing pregnant Mary hurt. Here she was, with apparently no difficulties carrying a baby to term despite being a teenager, living as a nomad and giving birth in an [...]

By |2016-12-12T11:02:48+00:00December 12th, 2016|Emotional Health|0 Comments

Breaking the silence with nurses

PALS blogger Amanda Ross-White delivers the keynote at the National Nursing Assessment Service Conference Stillbirth does not get enough attention. It does not get enough attention from researchers. It does not get enough attention from the doctors, midwives and nurses who care for us. It does not get enough attention from the public. [...]

By |2016-11-07T09:01:29+00:00November 7th, 2016|From Professionals, Pregnancy|0 Comments